Second child?
Hi everyone,
I'm a woman, autistic and have a loving husband and a sweet 2,5 year old daughter.
My husband is very very likely also autistic (but still not diagnosed, as the waiting time is years where we live).
Our daughter is an absolute delight. Super easy, very very smart. Barely any meltdowns, and just generally a very happy child. She loves her daycare and have friends there, and they love her back. I'm honestly not sure how we managed to have a child like that 😅 she loves babies and pretends that her dolls are a little brother (some of the ones in her daycare have baby siblings, it's not something we have introduced).
The question now is: I/we really want another child. I'm getting older, so it has to be a decision made soon, but I have so much doubt about it. Being a mother to my daughter has been a walk in the park, but what if the second is totally different? What if a high need second ends up destroying what we have?
How have you guys made a decision about several children or not, and what have you done to prepare if yes? How hard has it been to go from one to two children? Has any of you regretted it, or maybe all your fears turned out to be nothing?
Thank you in advance ❤️
Also: I'm in a country with an extensive social security system, and neither money nor help will be an issue. My husband works, but I don't, and we have a great network around us with my parents and good friends.