r/AutisticParents

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Hello! I'm 33 (F) and just discovering that I'm likely autistic (would explain why I've been struggling so much....). I have a 3 year old (M) who is also likely autistic and a 10 month old.

I feel like I'm drowning in multiple ways, but something that is particularly hard right now is that my toddler and I have many opposing sensory needs. He loves to bang/kick things repetitively (water bottle on the table, kicking the stove, etc) and loud repetitive noises like that are painful to me. He also has to be touching a human most of the day. I love touch when it's pressure so sitting down and snuggling him on my lap is great, but I can't stand when he rubs up against me when I'm trying to do something. Then if I tell him to give me space, he goes and nuzzles his little brother, often knocking him over. It's so hard to get anything done and I hate that I spend most of my day telling him "Don't do that."

I'm in the process of seeking out professional help, but if anyone has tips on how to meet both of our opposing sensory needs, I would greatly appreciate it. I just don't know if I can handle being autistic and having children. It's so hard!

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