Update:
AITA for preventing my husband from getting a loan because he refused to agree to a divorce 3 months ago?
Original post link https://www.reddit.com/r/CharlotteDobreYouTube/s/kMeO0OD1NR
I want to say thank you to everyone who offered me advice and consoling words. My nervous system was in overdrive for a while and I have since come back to a calmer place.
That being said, I have filed for divorce.
Jack continued to text and call me for for over a week. I never answered. He started trying to message me on social media asking why I was ignoring him. Then he even went as far as to email me and ask why I was ignoring him.
Hint: I'm ignoring him because we move in the shadows around these here parts. I also don't have the energy to try to explain to a grown man that deceiving your wife multiple times over the course of a few months and trying to get her to sign a loan she would be legally liable for isn't worth the energy anyway. Consequences aren't his strong suit.
He also tried to text my mother. He asked her to tell me to respond to him. She left him on read.
Anyway, I filed for divorce a couple days after my original post. Since I live a few towns away from my STB ex husband, and I am disabled to the point where I can't drive, I wasn't able to serve my husband myself. I paid the fee to have to sheriff's office do it for me. They let me know that their policy is that they try three times to serve him and if they can't, they send a receipt to let me know they tried and were unable to serve so I can file that with the court if/when it arrives, which I fear will likely be the case. The entire time I've known him, he refuses to answer the door to anyone he doesn't want to see (including people he knows), and he hates the police. I will be very surprised if they are able to serve him. If they can't, it defaults to an uncontested divorce, which takes considerably less time. Fingers crossed.
I also filed a protection order for my stuff (which I wasn't aware was a thing, but it turns out it is in my state). It states that if he destroys, gets rid of, or in any way damages any of my stuff I have listed in the order, he will be 100% financially liable. There are sentimental items that cannot be replaced. Unfortunately, I doubt he would have the financial means to pay me the worth of everything if it came down to that, all aspects considered.
A family member my mom is close to reached out and offered to pay for a lawyer for me if that became necessary, and even offered to get some friends together and help me get my stuff when we have to go get it. They also advised me to move in the shadows.
I wish I had more to the update, but I just wanted to let everyone know what came of it.
Thanks for reading. I appreciate y'all!