So me 21(M) and my girlfriend 21(F) have been going through a rough patch recently. Things weren’t good for like a week or two. We had a fight before where I felt like she made it seem like everything was my fault, and honestly that hurt me. Because of that, I kinda pulled back a bit and didn’t give as much attention as before.
Then one day she suddenly disabled her FB and Messenger, cleared our nicknames, unfollowed me on IG, and later sent a long message basically saying goodbye, thanking me, and telling me to take care. It felt like a breakup out of nowhere.
We did end up getting back together, but things haven’t felt the same since. When we talked about it in person, she insisted that I was the one who started it (like unfollowing first), but that’s not true—I only did those things after she already did. I tried explaining but she didn’t really listen and kept pushing her version.
Fast forward to today—she “joked” that some guy was chatting her, telling her to leave me because I don’t give her enough attention. When she said that, I actually believed it for a moment and it hurt. Then she sent a picture of us to that “guy,” which made me feel a bit better, but then she said it was all just a prank.
Now I’m just confused. It didn’t feel like a joke to me, especially since it literally just happened today. It felt like she was playing with my feelings, especially after everything that already happened.
Part of me still cares about her, but another part of me feels like this relationship is getting unhealthy and stressful.
Would appreciate honest opinions.