Hi, I (18m) got my ex-girlfriend (18f) pregnant and she's about six months along. we had been together since 9th grade but then her getting pregnant made me not wanna be with her no more. First of all, I asked that she get an abortion because we live in a state that allows it, she said no. I said cool, I guess we doing this shit and I'm not abandoning her. The baby is coming in July after we graduate.
I decided I'd go to community college instead of leaving her to go to USC for college baseball. I don't mind coz i can still transfer. I've been working as a CNA over weekends since I turned 18 in November. My ex-gf and I have decided to take a gap year before starting community college next year.
In December, her parents talked to us about us getting married. She said "Yeah, it's in the plans" and I just shrugged coz I didn't want to embarrass her but I'm not getting married just because we're going to have a baby. I told her that after dinner and she just started crying, saying I'm planning to leave her. Overall, she's been bitchy and I get it, she's pregnant but she was being extremely rude and at times, even ignoring me.
January, she came over to my house and asked my mom if she could help with us moving into an apartment, like getting approval and all. My mom said she doesn't feel comfortable with us living together alone because that's how we end up with another baby. I just don't wanna move out and be alone and independent yet when our parents are still willing to house us and pay for our things. My ex-gf told me to talk to my mom. I didn't coz tf? My mom is right.
February, she brings up the marriage thing again and says she wants at least a promise ring. I said it's not necessary because it won't change that we are still two reckless 18 year olds. She didnt talk to me for a week and also, I ended up missing her scan because she didn't want me to pick her up.
Beginning of March, I started feeling very irritated because she's been so excited about having a baby. Like, in a "omg this is like the best thing thats happened to me" and not a "making the best of the situation i created and well, babies are cute" type of excitement. like it's not some life-changing thing that should only happen when you at least 30. She keeps watching teen moms who are stay at home mom videos on tiktok and it's like she's planning to do that shit, instead of locking in so we don't end up a statistic (no higher education and teen parents).
Two weeks ago, we had an argument coz I was on tiktok and i saw she commented on some 20 year stay at home mom and wife with like 3 kids that she wants her life and she knows she'll get it because im already providing and all. We argued over whether shes serious about making her future better, why shes so excited, why she isnt watching better content etc. I just finally exploded over my feelings. So i said we're over, shes not my gf anymore but I'll still take care of the kid.
I left her parents house and i ignored her calls and messages till like the next day. I told her i meant it, that i dont want her anymore, i just dont want to be in a relationship anymore. But I'll still be there for the kid.
Now, she's on Snapchat posting about our messages, basically trying to make it seem like I intentionally got her pregnant even though we were using condoms and she said she took the pill. so I got ppl now at school in my business, staring at me funny.
I just want advice from more mature people on how to navigate this situation and coparent properly because I only care about the kid. I won't disappear but she's irritating me. thank u