Because of my ADHD, I already struggle with memory and staying grounded. My ex used that as a weapon. Every time I’d get confused or lose focus, the gaslighting would start—it felt like an asthma attack where I was gasping for the truth but couldn't get a breath.
Telling someone with ADHD to "just remember better" or "just move on" is like telling someone in an attack to "just breathe."
"I’m currently working as a Peer Support Specialist (even if the paperwork says otherwise), so I’m on the front lines of this every day. I’ve been spending my spare time building a resource to map these patterns..."
but I’ve been hyperfocusing on building a way out. I mapped the mechanics of how they weaponize our traits (like data mining our insecurities). I called it Safe Harbor Notes at identifytheabuse.com.
I just wanted to share this for anyone else whose ADHD is being used against them. You aren't "forgetful," you're being hunted.