u/Decent-Singer-3335

Location: Palm Beach County Florida

I received a call from my child’s school at the end of the school day today informing me that she had reported a paraprofessional at the school grabbed her hood so hard when she was sitting down to eat lunch that she lost her breath for a moment. When she got back to her regular classroom after lunch, she told her teacher about it and her teacher encouraged her to report it. My daughter was then interrogated in a room by several people at the school (resource officer, vice principal, principal, assistant counselor). They went over footage of the incident and gaslit my child into believing what happened to her did not happen to her. They made her believe the paraprofessional got her ring caught on her hood and told her there is no incident and that she cannot tell her parents because we will call the police. They also told her that any teacher can touch her at any time, any way they want and for any reason. I was not privy to any of this! I was not informed about this incident until after they interrogated her. My daughter has a red mark on her neck and I have pictures of it. The paraprofessional also pushed another child into the lunch table seat.

When I was informed at the end of the school day by a call from the VP, I ran over to the school within 20 minutes. I told them I wanted to see the footage for myself. Conveniently when I got there, they were experiencing “technical difficulties,” and could not show me any footage. I told them because I couldn’t see the footage, I would be opening a report with DCF and the police. They filed their own reports (supposedly) and I made my own independent reports myself. I never received a copy or was even told that a police report was made with the school resource officer. Now we have a full weekend to wait and I’m leery of the footage ever being able to be found. When I called my local PD the told me I have to report this to the school police. The school police told me I have to deal with the school with this matter despite the corrupt resource officer. I finally escalated it enough to school police and the chief is supposed to meet me at the school first thing Monday morning. The problem is the chief is related to or good friends with the resource officer, I have heard.

Now I’m thinking I have no other choice but to hire an attorney since this is all misconstrued and covered up. Please help. What steps can I take next?

I need help understanding, processing and overcoming big nostalgic feelings I’ve been feeling lately.

I’m 37 and lately I feel like I can no longer handle all of the changes life has brought. Sometimes I still feel like I was school aged no more than 10 years ago. I can’t believe how fast time has flown!

One example… my elementary school that I remember fondly is being torn down at the end of the school year and I feel really sad about it. Then I realized, 30 years have passed since I was there. I can’t even fathom this! I don’t live in the area anymore, 2000 miles away for the last 15 years but I feel a connection to it. Then I think about my parents getting older and I’m not far from not having them in my life. I know I’m fortunate to have them with me, especially considering my Dad has had a serious chronic illness my whole life. How did this happen so quickly? I’ll think about old friends and they still seem like friends to me, but we haven’t seen each other in 20 years. I feel like I’m overly sensitive to this. I’m so sad the past is gone. Times were so good back then and I never appreciated it. My oldest child is almost 10. I still feel like I’m a new mother in some ways and then I realize 2016 was a generation ago!

Can anyone relate? Is this normal? Is this a crisis I’m going through or does everyone come to this realization and it hits hard? What can I do to feel better? Any words of wisdom? Help!

I have always felt like I’m invisible to others. I could spend a whole afternoon with someone or connect with someone over something and the next time I see them it’s as if they have no idea who I am. I even get “nice to meet you,” very often when we have absolutely met before and had a conversation. No one ever remembers my name. It’s a sad way of thinking of myself, and I’d like to change it.

Any advice?