So as the title stated, my fiance and I are struggling with life priorities, let me explain better, my fiance and I started dating 3 years ago and we got engaged earlier this year, for context we I’m turning 21 this year so no the age difference isn’t weird. My fiance works as a corrections officer and I have a bachelor’s and I’m getting my masters in ABA and also working towards my teaching license ( I love school and thanks to my mum for making me skip some classes) but right now I work as a substitute teacher, my income isn’t the best but I’m working towards more income, but on the other hand my fiance makes more than enough to sustain us, all this while also building a car rental business and a construction business, all this to say we are financially stable. We are planning to get married and buy a house next year.
So here is where it gets tricky, I really love my fiance, we have come up with a five year plan and we plan to have kids after that, but lately I’ve been having the urge to get pregnant, I mean so bad that I had to tell my fiance about it, he doesn’t have any problem with this but we are kind of worried that having a kid would be a hold back our 5 year plan and it would turn our plan to a 7-8 year plan. We need advice from those who have been in the situation before and what you would advice we prioritize? Sticking to the 5 year plan or going ahead to have a baby?
Ps: The main reason why we wanted the kid to come after 5 years is because my fiance was worried that my body is too delicate to carry a baby, but when I’m 25/26 it might be easier for me then.