First time posting here (please excuse my english - it's not my first language, but I'll do my best 😊).
Around 4 years ago I met a man, this happened shortly after I moved to my home country after living abroad for 8years. At the time I met him he was 37 (I am the same age). He actually knows me since I was 17ish, but I didn't remember him at all when he told me this. We even have some common friends and my cousin's husband is a friend with him.
He is a mechanic and my parents needed their car fixed, so a friend of mine recommended Peter(not his real name) and booked an appointment for me with him. After the appointment he imediately called that friend and was asking about me, if I'm single, complimented my looks etc., it seemed like he was interested in me, which is also what my friend said. He said Peter is a really nice guy, good friend, single, no kids. I didn't think much of it at that time (I went through a difficult break up about 8 months before that).
Then we met at a party few months later, we ended up chating for few hours, he walked me home after, we sat on the stairs outside my house and just talked, he called himself a taxi, kissed me on the cheek and went home. He was a bit shy, but said he really fancied me back in the days, when we first met ( as I said I don't remember him). He kept asking my cousin's husband about me, how I am doing etc. I went to his work few times and that is maybe where I f'd up. There was this one time at his work, we were chatting but I lost track of time 🤦🏼♀️ and spent too much time there...I mean hours...with some people the conversation just flows. It maybe freaked him out...my cousin's husband said he knows him well and this was not good. Peter even told him we are not even together yet, how will that go if we get together. But every time I called him to get my car fixed, we ended up talking for at least an hour. .
Some time past we met at another party and it all seemed ok, he was very chatty and touchy with me, was around me a lot. What is confusing is one of his friends told me Peter is not interested, but one never knows it could change.
Months after that during one of our phone calls he even asked me if we were together would I try to stop him from going out with his friends sometimes. He was already seeing his new girlfriend, but in the end they didn't last long.
Every time I saw Peter somewhere he would be around me a lot, hugging me, telling me how he fancied me years ago. (Except the time he was with his girlfriend).
At the last party at the end of last year he invited me to his place for a drink, it was getting late so I wanted to get a taxi but he said I can stay and he will drive me home in the morning. We ended up sleeping on the sofa while hugging. There was never a propper kiss or anything, but his hand we all over me 🤦🏼♀️
Last year around Christmas he needed help ordering some vintage stuff from UK. He doesn't speak english so he asked me for help. We talked for few hours on the phone. In the end the stuff from UK didnt work out, so I managed to find him another set from EU, he drove there and were were texting for days and then it just stopped.
Now he has a new girlfriend ( 29ish, one kid - even though he said many times he doesnt want a partner with kid/kids, he dated one years ago and it wasn't good). One of his close friends told me Peter just again chose "a simple girl" and rolled his eyes.
I guess I was just stupid the whole time
Except the phone calls and when we meet somewhere we are not in touch. I never made the move. I hope it all makes sense. Thank you ❤️