My boyfriend and I’ve been together about 2 1/2 years. I’m ready for more commitment like getting engaged or moving in together, but he’s not yet. He says he wants to live with me but due owning our separate homes, not wanting to live at my house (due to history with my husband there) and our many dogs and my kids, it won’t be for probably two years at least. I am OK with this plan, but it is longer than I want.
On top of this, I would like more sex. He says due to his meds (antidepressants etc), his libido is lower but he has made an active effort to be intimate with me more like getting ED pills (it’s like once a week). So I found p$rn open on his computer this weekend, and it caused my insecurity to spike and then I pressured him to commit to a timeline to moving in. That backfired. He feels very pressured and like we already discussed it (we did). Anyways, do I tell him I found the porn? I’m feeling defeated right now.