AITA or is this tough love?
My girlfriend recently got a new job. She was really excited for it, reading books, looking up courses and was even thinking of making a long term career out of it. A big pay rise from her last job as well, but it does mean she has to work a little harder and sometimes some awkward hours, which are never longer than a week (max 1 month) at a time.
She's recently realised that she doesn't like the building she works in and the hours. She hasn't had much help settling in to the job either, as her manager was fired and so was his manager. Fair enough. I told her no biggie, just look for another job whilst working on this one. She said she doesn't want to move on because of her age and stereotypes about not having had a long term job at her age. Again, fair enough. I told her stick it out for 6months to a year and move on..
The job contract says that it's full time in the office, she skips working at the office 1-2 days per week because she doesn't like going into the building... doesn't like the job... Can't be bothered... Xyz. She received a message from a manager who reminded her that her job is office based full time last week and my girl panicked and went to work everyday until today.
This happened in her last job too, where she could she would just avoid going to the office, even when she had the hours she wanted and worked in a nice building. It's a pattern of hers.
Okay, now here's my response to finding out she's at home and not at work via message.
"I'm not mad, I'm just telling you how it is" " You need to hold down a job" "you said you want to gain experience, move beyond entry level jobs.and earn more money" " getting fired for simply not showing up is a silly way to get fired". "I'm sorry but I'm holding you accountable for this, you just told me last week someone got snitched on for doing exactly this, and now you're doing the same" " please don't think I'm getting on my high horse about this, there's plenty of times I've said fuck it I'm not going to work today, but I'm not doing it every week and risking getting fired".
She's now not talking to me because I refused to come home from my workout to talk about it.
Am I the Asshole?