AITA for blocking a pregnant friend from my mums group?
I met this woman through a local mums group 2 years ago. We’ve had a few coffee catchups and play dates, always at my house. She’s heavily pregnant, has no family nearby, and her husband works weekends. Because of that, I offered that if she had an emergency (like going into labour early), I could help with her toddler for a few hours if needed.
Last weekend she asked for a same-day play date on Mother’s Day. I said no because we already had plans. Then she asked again on Monday and I said I’d have to see if I could make time. She then sent me a long passive aggressive text saying I was making her anxious because I’d offered support she “can’t rely on.”
This was also the same day as my IVF embryo transfer, which she knew about, and I told her I needed to rest and avoid stress.
I explained that offering emergency help did not mean I should feel obligated to say yes to last-minute play dates at my house . She said it herself that given how pregnant she is our play date is basically I look after both toddlers while she sat on my couch the whole time. I explained I didn't and couldn't offer to be her weekend babysitter.
She also brought up how I once offered to do a Costco run in the morning to help prep for her baby shower, but later I couldn’t attend due to a scheduling clash. She didn’t even take me up on the Costco offer, but somehow still seemed upset I wasn’t available all day.
I told her I genuinely tried to be supportive and that I don’t have the energy for this level of stress. She said she “me neither but I need to tell you how I feel." I ended the conversation with a good luck, I can't be stressed by this so I'm going to block you for now. Thanks and blocked her.
Further context - this person also got upset and passive aggressive when I told her she couldn't come to Bbq at my house - The Bbq is with my uni friends who I've known for over 15 years. I invited this person because I feel sorry that she doesn't have many friends, family is not in Sydney and her husband works on weekends. The Bbq was at 1pm. She said oh I might come late. Then when she wanted to come at. 4pm I said no. She got upset and passive aggressive.
I feel drained by this one sided friendship.
[Update - someone asked have I helped this woman once? Yes plenty. I helped her prepare for her son's birthday party. I left my own toddler with my husband at home so I can help this woman drive her party supplies and food to the venue. I stored the food in my spare fridge. I got there an hour earlier than the other guests to help set up. I agreed to be her son's third emergency contact for day care. All play dates are at my house. I took her out for lunch on her birthday. I can go on.]
AITA?