I’ve been separated and going through court to see my kids. I’m tired and exhausted. Recently caved in to a RO as I don’t care about that in the sense of seeing that person again or talking outside of a court approved app.
Recently after an arduous uphill battle of attorneys, court and judges. I was at supervised visits with a BAC, then moved to every Saturday for 8 hours, then recently I was granted overnights every other weekend and there was an incident where my niece(whose autistic) and my oldest were playing and my daughter scratched her face enough to bleed by a window screen falling off as I was watching. So I do what you do which is document, write and take a photo or two then tell the other parent.
Well I thought my statement would suffice but she grilled our daughter I assume asking if her cousin did that? After she already had told me that she didn’t get scratched and that the screen fell.
Now move forward I’m emailed by an attorney I’m trying to let go as my funds are dwindling and currently negative In my account. He informs me that mom is asking that no more visits happen at my house and that her niece can’t be around if they do.(she lives here in a mother in law’s quarters)
So mom is filing an exparte. I wonder if this is even relevant as kids do get hurt with scratches, bruises and other injuries while playing. Mom has sent them to me multiple times with scratches and I’ve not bothered telling her but I have been documenting. I hate to message her about anything as it is very high conflict and the feeling isn’t amicable as I do everything in my power to avoid stirring up her nest. I keep replies clean, structured and gray rock method.
How cooked am I? This has been a very difficult and stressful process for me. I feel like giving up. I’m broke, I’m at the edge of depression and can’t even look forward to much anymore. She has exhausted me with countless accusations, belittling comments, demanding statements, and a very high level of control. Even my attorney and hers have noticed her behavior and messages are meant to provoke responses from me that will be used against me. She acts so prideful and arrogant as if she has me in corner and she does but I’ll never tell. Have you ever given up and walked away? Does it get better? She recently won a $1,000,000 settlement for personal injury while married and is using these funds to finance her own resentment and anger towards me in court documents and her attorney. I’m literally filing for bankruptcy now as I was left with every bill and every debt and do I re isn’t even started yet but she’s been served as have I.
There is so much more but this is a long enough rant. I try not to live in hate as was she thinks I am. It’s definitely challenging with what is happening and her choices. But I do think she absolutely hates me and would love for me to walk away from the kids