Had a friend for a year, we both go to the same sixth form. We got really close during the beginning of the school year, we used to speak to each other everyday, for hours, for months, they confided me, they seemed to trust me a lot and everything was going well. We then had a conflict during Feb, and they started withdrawing due to overwhelm, I tried to resolve stuff and they withdrew even more, eventually we get into a fight and the status of our friendship is confusing. They said "they can't handle closeness anymore"
They kinda start stonewalling me in person, which makes it awkward and uncomfortable in our shared friend group. I spiral because this person who used to be so warm to me is now seeming cold and indifferent. I did chase for a few days asking them to please just let me talk it out as I find the shutting out painful as they genuinely talk to everyone else. Eventually they say "leave me alone", I apologise and give them 1 month space. I reach out once more, get ignored so I delete their number.
The confusing part is not even an hour later, they message me "I can't believe you blocked me just because I didn't want to make myself uncomfortable, after making it clear I want to be left alone". I assume they thought I blocked them because I only let my contacts see my profile, so they saw a blank pfp. They must have saw two ticks, realised they weren't blocked, deleted the message and claimed it was meant for their brother. I said, "you okay, are you still not ready to talk". They reply "what do you mean?" I leave them on read. 3 days later they reach out saying "you text me first, but leave me on read"
We have a back and forth, and they press what I meant by "are you still not ready to talk?", I get frustrated and say "You can't be fucking serious rn?" as they obviously knew what I meant by that given we haven't been talking for months. Then they blocked me?
I've been struggling with this friendship loss for months, I really was attached, and the way they minimised our friendship, and then treat me like a stranger after being so close, really hurts especially when I have to see them every day.
Why were they even affected by the idea of me blocking me. Them saying "they can't handle being close with anyone anymore" while also saying they are close with other members of the friendship group, just confuses me. I really can't process this properly as I don't really have other friends to confide in and have exams coming up. I really don't understand what they are thinking. Am I right to be confused?