Most guys know the game. At least we like to think that we do. Most of us think that we are not capable of doing something so stupid as to think that a stripper, content creator, escort is actually in love with us. We do know it's stupid. It's impossible for a gorgeous girl who gets a lot of attention, to fall in love with a middle aged, over weight, average looking guy.
But what makes us believe is we want to believe. All because they know who we are and what we are looking for, validation. And often times it's worth more than sex.
Here is my story.
I have been in a relationship with the same woman for 14 years. She is beautiful, kind, and a great home maker. Above all she is a great step mom to my sons. But what she wasn't, was affectionate. She grew up in a home that was mostly filled with animosity and resentment. The only thing she loved in their home was her little sister and their dogs.
My partner never asked for sex. Though she almost never said no when I asked, it was more okay do your thing and then after we're done, she'll roll over and go to sleep. There was no spontanaity. Sex was always in bed before going to sleep. Nowhere else, no other time. What the hell is a nooner?
I found Pauline in an escort site. Most of the girls there advertise "custom content". I decided to get a video done for my nephew's bachelor party since there was a no stripper rule between him and his fiancé.
Pauline was in the Philippines. She was gorgeous. Looked very exotic, tall, had a killer body and an awesome personality. I reached out to her, told her what I the video was for and discussed the price. After a few days she told me the video was ready and asked what I thought. I told her that I was very happy with it and she asked me to keep her in mind if I needed more videos.
About a month later, I saw Pauline was online and I started a chat with her and she asked if my nephew liked the video and I told her it was a hit. All his friends were commenting how gorgeous she was and she was thankful.
Pauline asked if I was busy and if I could talk since she had no one she could talk to. I wasn't busy at the time so why not.
She asked if I knew she was an escort and in the back of my mind I was thinking it was a sales pitch but no harm since she was literally half a world away.
Then she told me that she got "violated" by a client the night before. I asked her what happened and she said that she had a strict no kissing on the mouth policy and her client forced himself on her and proceeded to rape her as she protested.
She felt so helpless and violated since there wasn't anything she could do. We ended up talking for about an hour with me listening and just giving her advice.
A few days later she started a chat with me and I asked her if she was doing better and she said yes. She thanked me for listening to her and letting her vent.
We started conversing. There were times that we would do a video call and out of nowhere, without me asking Pauline would flash me or get up, get naked and tell me it was so hot in her room.
We started chatting more and more and I was getting very fond of Pauline. My radar was not up since she never asked for me for money. We were just chatting, flirting and having fun.
One day she decided to get naked during our conversation and I told her that all she did was tease me and she never followed through. She decided to do a full on cam show. I expected that she would ask for money, but she did not and all she asked was if I enjoyed it.
It got to the point that Pauline and I were chatting and video calling each other almost everyday. As a lot of escorts in the Philippines do, she goes to Taiwan, Malaysia, Singapore and Hong Kong to "work".
Pauline would call me on video chat and sometimes send me videos of her "working". Again, she never asked for money.
Then one day she gave me a story about how she got robbed and she just wanted to go back home to the Philippines. She was asking if I could lend her $200 for a ticket home. I said no and she deleted all our chats and when she did reply to my chat request, she told me we had nothing else to talk about. She finally showed me her cards.
Fine, crisis averted. If only.
A month of zero contact, she one day messaged me "how are you?" I replied "fine". And she said "I'm back home". And I replied "good".
A few weeks go by and she started messaging me and apologized. We started chatting again. And a few weeks go by and it was like nothing ever happened.
Pauline was very affectionate and paid attention to me. She knew more about my frustrations at work, my sons, my fears and she actually would check in on me a few days later to see if I was okay. She would ask if I took my meds, if ate breakfast, if I did all I needed to do and she did something everyday that my partner doesn't do, she told me she loved me.
Again she never asked for money. She would send me very sexy and naughty pictures and videos out of the blue. One day we were talking about lingerie and she sent me a few pics wearing the ones she had. She told me if I ever wanted to see her in any lingerie just buy it for her and she'll wear it for me.
We started picking out lingerie, costumes for role play and eventually sex toys. The only thing she said no to was butt plugs. She was not into ass play.
Fortunately, the only retail site we both visited and can can access from both our countries was "Shein" so the lingerie we would pick out was never more than $20.
Pauline and I had a lot of fun. For special occasions like Christmas, my birthday, and Valentine's she would make me very nice intimate videos wearing one of the lingerie that we bought and she got very naughty.
She filled a void in my life. My girlfriend would never do anything like what Pauline does. Her idea of sexy sexy night wear, is a pajama. And forget about her masturbating or using toys. She'd roll her eyes at me if I requested anything like that.
Pauline always complimented me when she saw I got a haircut, or was wearing a new shirt. Something my girlfriend stopped doing a longtime ago.
She told me she loved me every chance she got and could not wait until she could show me how much she did. I started to fall for her. And I fell hard. In my mind, Pauline was my girlfriend and she validated it too. A fantasy, come to life.
Aside from the lingerie and toys, I would give her $20-50 dollars (about 1k to 2.5k in Philippine pesos) once or twice a month. On special occasions I'd give her $100 and for her birthday and Christmas, I gave her $200.
Last week, she sent me a naughty video on telegram and after I watched it, I noticed that above the video said "forwarded from _". I clicked on it and it led me to her pay site. And what I saw broke my heart. The videos she made for me during special occasions and was "for my eyes only" was on that site.
There were comments thanking her for the videos from people who have seen it and her replies.
I WAS DEVASTATED.
But what was worse was when I confronted her with all the evidence, she denied it and continued to lie.
I know I should not have been surprised. She was treating other men like how she treated me and they were are appreciative as I was.
I told her it was over and she begged me not to end it. Then I showed her screenshots of her other conversations.
It's been a few days and radio silence.
I know I was an idiot for falling for that scam. Though she never really asked for money, she made me believe it was my idea to give her money.
Looking back, based on what I bought her and gave her, I probably spent $1800-2000 on our 1.5 year "relationship". Though I feel like an idiot and deeply hurt, I just try to think that I paid for entertainment, much like I paid for video games, movies or sports events. I paid for a fantasy that I knew was not really, but genuinely wanted to believe that it was.
And that my friends is why believing a stripper really likes you can happen to anybody. Because we genuinely want to believe that the fantasy is real.