u/Dbc_A17

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I’m 6 months postpartum and I feel like my rage and anxiety are still getting the best of me. I’m starting to feel depression creeping in, and I had pretty severe postpartum depression with my first daughter, so that’s honestly scaring me a bit.

My son is such a joy and usually a very happy baby, but lately he’s been screaming a lot, really unhappy, and not sleeping well again. I feel completely drained. I also have a 3 year old I’m trying to care for at the same time, and some days it just feels like I’m barely keeping my head above water.

I feel like such a crappy mom some days because I have the TV on a lot for my daughter just so I can tend to my son. I don’t get dressed up, I don’t do my hair or makeup, and I just feel like a slob when my husband gets home. He always tells me I look beautiful, but I don’t feel it at all.

I feel really uncomfortable in my body right now. My jeans don’t fit, tight tops feel awful, and I basically live in leggings and oversized sweaters.

I just really miss feeling like myself and I’m wondering… when did you start feeling like you again postpartum? And does it actually get better?

I recently switched my six month old from three naps to two. On three naps, we followed 2/2.5/2.5/2.5, with a 1.5 hour first nap and about an hour for the second and short catnap for third nap- 30 minutes max.

Since moving to two naps with wake windows of 2/3/3.5, all of his naps have dropped to around 30 minutes, and he’s started waking early in the morning again, often crying.

I made the switch because the third nap had become really difficult—he was taking about 20 minutes to fall asleep, and the early morning wakes had already started.

Now I’m unsure if I transitioned too quickly or if this is just a normal adjustment period. I’m tempted to go back to three naps, but it feels like he might be stuck in an overtired cycle, and I’m not sure how to fix it.

Should I adjust his wake windows, go back to three naps for now, or stick it out and give him time to settle?

It honestly feels like we’re back in the crap nap phase again 🫠