I honestly feel like my friend quit pursuing our friendship when I got pregnant. I feel like I always initiate conversations or plans now. If I didn’t text, I don’t think I would ever hear from her.
Did this happen to anyone?
My stepdad (practically dad) had a stroke last week. This makes #10 in the last like 10-15 years. This one seems worse than the others. He’s in ICU now. He was put on sedation for violent involuntary movements, and a ventilator for respiratory failure due to lactic acid buildup. He has since been taken off the ventilator and sedation only to be put on a bipap machine with sedation reintroduced. The doctor was quite upfront with us on his current state and future outlook, mentioning the high likelihood of tracheotomy if oxygen levels don’t increase, introduction of feeding tube and medicine tube if he can’t be awake enough to try and follow commands due to the sedation. In the last week, it’s like everything went to shit when he was readmitted to the hospital the few days after going home from the stroke. He was readmitted due to a fall and to be transferred to rehab. Then a few days later while in the hospital, he has to be sedated due to violent involuntary movements and then the ventilator because he’s going into respiratory failure.
Idk I’m really to putting this here to get it out and maybe curious if there is anyone out there that has had a family member or friend with similar outcome. Did they come out the other side? Based on the medical facts, the outlook doesn’t look good. I just essentially told my stepdad today goodbye because I have to fly back home tomorrow. I hope a part of him could hear me in there but honestly I have no idea bc he’s sedated and otherwise completely out of it
I’m trying to figure out if she just doesn’t want to be my friend anymore.
Rewind, this girl (28F) and I (28F) started becoming pretty close last year. It did help that both of our husbands were away for work for an extended period of time, so it was quite literally just us hanging and doing fun stuff. I will say that it does feel as if I did come up with any of the ideas for our plans. I am more of a planner, so I didn’t think too much of it. Anyways, fast forward, my husband gets home. Hers is still away, but she’s starting school and is busy with that. I work full time as well. Obviously, as my husband returns, we spend a lot of needed time together. She completely understands that and also encouraged it. As time goes on, I try to initiate plans with her. She’s busy with school and studying. I get it, I was there before, so I’m just waiting for her to let me know when she’s got some free time or when school is out at the end of the semester. We did hang out occasionally… maybe like 4-6 times in a 5 month period (completely different than our summer together). I did end up getting pregnant towards the end of that 5 month period, so I was pretty unmotivated to make many plans or do much, but she didn’t really initiate making plans anyways. Then, fast forward some more, I literally had like barely seen her in a 2-3 month period. I did go by her house for a quick hang out after dinner (that she declined coming to), and I did express to her that it was feeling off and trying to see if she had any hard feelings. She said no, she was just weird being home alone while her husband was away. Her husband gets home at the end of this period, and I leave her be because he’s home and they need that time together and she also communicated that to me. We finally started hanging out again a little this past month, but things are just off. I still had to come up with the plans or initiate the planning and hang out.
I’m just trying to determine the reason for the switch up… was it my husband getting home? me getting pregnant and not being able to be in the same lifestyle anymore?
It makes me sad because I feel like if I just didn’t hit her up that I would just not hear from her again. She does not express that I have wronged her in anyway. I also am not aware of any reasons I could have wronged her.
Do I just cut my losses? I’m about to be a mom, and honestly I won’t have the bandwidth to worry about someone acting weird towards me when baby comes. It just sucks bc she is good friend (so I think) and would appreciate her support during my transition to motherhood (but she’s not a mom so maybe not so much). Maybe I’m just an over thinker and typing up this scenario is just too extra lmao
Anyways thanks for reading. Lmk your thoughts