u/Dazzling-Load-3101

Problem/goal: Hi, gusto ko lang sana humingi ng help and advice. Me and my boyfriend were almost 5 years. I'll just summarize this—so Yun na nga mag 5 years na kami and lately mga 1-2months na din and up until now ay napapadalas away namin ni bf, especially kapag simpleng bagay lang Naman gnun wether big or small matter palagi nauuwi sa away, dati nagiging okay di naman kmi ganun, mataas Ang pride ko at mataas din pride ni bf, kahit nasaktan niya Ako Hindi Siya mag sorry Kase for him Wala Siya ginawa Mali (Hindi niya Alam na nasaktan Ako sa actions or nasabi niya) and if I bring up ko na nasaktan niya Ako he would say na siya din Naman nasasaktan ko and so— so yun Ang eksena, and then lately nga napapa dalas away namin halos everyday and sobrang nakaka drain Yun, Hindi ko alam pano ko ba ma explain ng maayos nararamdaman ko rn bilang babae, 3 days na kmi hindi nag uusap.. mahal namin Ang isat isa and we both don't want to leave but we Also don't want to keep hurting each other.

For example nalang, shinare ko Kase sakanya Yung isang nabasa ko dito sa Reddit, the reason Naman na shinare ko Yun Kase about ldr relationship Yun, which is kami den pero madalas Naman kami mag kita. So shinare ko sakanya kung gaano Ako ka invested sa chika dito sa Reddit and kung gaano Ako ka curious sa ldr relationship ng IBA, and then all of the sudden Sabi niya "bakit parang masyado Kang invested Jan?" Sabi ko Naman "ofc, ldr to e syempre gusto ko lang din malaman ldr story ng iba"

Tapos Sabi Niya "so you're comparing our relationship to other people? You're thinking that we're also like that and I'm going to be like that?".

When he said that I got furious, Kase curious lang Naman Ako at gusto ko lang Naman mag share ng CHIKA para Naman may topic at mapag usapan kmi ganun. Pero Yun nanga nag resort na sa away Kase nga iniisip niya na kinocompare ko RELASYON namin and gusto ko maging ganun den kmi, BUT NO! I WAS JUST SHARING KASE WE CAN SOMEHOW RELATE KASE LDR DEN.

So another thing na cause ng away namin is one time nag paalam Siya gagala Siya with his cousin (all boys tatlo sila) I agreed sinabi nya lahat ng pupuntahan niya, Ano Oras uwi nya and all—mejo na off lang Ako sa part na sinabi nyang pupunta sila sa bgc straight up rooftop cafe, let me repeat it again bgc straight up rooftop cafe, and napa "?" Ako Kase it's not a cafe it was a bar( hear me out alam ko na bar Yun Kase inaya niya Ako don to celeb one of our special occasion, and Kase inaaya ko Siya mag bar pero ayoko ss typical bar Sabi ko sakanya I want somewhere cozy lang and he suggested that bar na we should go there daw, and I also know na Hindi lang Naman Yun talaga bar, it was also a lounge where you can dine, so okay Naman nothing's wrong Naman if he'll go there e but the only problem to me is the fact that he altered the word "bar" into "cafe" because he didn't want me to misunderstood, mainly because we have a general rule that never go to a bar without your partner because it is considered cheating, any kind of bar, even if the ambience isn't but as long as the society sees it and treat it as a bar it is a no no no, honestly, I would have let him and agree if he honestly told me where he would go without altering the place especially since Pinsan Naman niya kasama niya. Matino yung isang Pinsan niya Ang ayoko lang is Yung isa because ung isa niyang Pinsan is a cheater and I'm afraid that he might get influenced, pero still kahit ayoko sa Pinsan nya hinahayaan ko Siya Kase may TIWALA AKO but why would he altered that bar into cafe? Ano para d Ako mag react?!) so I called him out na kung bakit need niya gawin Yun? He said Hindi daw nya alam na bar Yun (lol not true, he's the one who planned where to go, he researched the place before going to check the ambiance because he is a clout chaser) and I called him out again sinabi ko na alam ko na bar Yun Kase sinabi nya Sakin dati na bar Yun at pwede kmi pumunta don (Diba, he lied straight to my fucking face even if confronted) Basta Yun that basically the start of our heated fight, Nung nasa galaan na siya nag uupd sya, nag sesend Siya vid and pics na madami, so okay naamn sa akin. Another thing Sabi nya by midnight uuwi na siya, e Diba Ang midnight sa atin e before 12am? Alam niyo Ano Oras naka uwi? 2am! Nag laro lang sila sa bilyaran for fuck sake. So when he got home I confronted him and told him how upset I was sa ginawa niya na nasaktan Ako and I feel like nasira na Naman tiwala ko over little things (for context Hindi Siya cheater, hindi lang nya madalas napapanindigan mga sinasabi nya which is what I hate) and don na nga nag simula ang away Kase sinabi nalang nya Bigla na "tuwing lalabas nalang Ako ganyan ka, palagi ka may NASASABI Minsan ngalang Ako lumabas di pa Ako maging Malaya tuwing nasa labas Ako iniisip ko mga masasabi mo na Naman sa akin" and I was like? What?! FIRST OF ALL WALA NAMSN AKO MASASABI, WALA NAMAN AKO DAPAT NA IKAKAGALIT KUNG LAHAT NG GINAWA AT SINABI MO SAKIN BAGO KA LUMABAS NG BAHAY AY NAGAGAWA MO TALAGA! BECAUSE I WAS WAITING FOR YOU TO COME BACK HOME! HINDI YUNG SASABIHIN MO DITO LANG KAYO PUPUNTA TSPOS ALL OF THE SUDDEN IBA NA NAMAN PLANO HINDJ YUNG SASABIHIN MO GANITONG ORAS UUWI KSNA TAPOS UUMAGSHIN KA, HINDI YUNG LALABAS KA TAPOS I-UUPDATE MOKO 2-5 SECONDS VIDEO LANG AT SOBRA BILIS PA NA I CAN'T BARELY SEE A THING! THOSE SIMPLE THINGS ANG IKINAKAGALIT KO AT HINDI YUNH PAG LABAS MO! (FYI SINABI KO YAN LAHAT SAKANYA PERO OALAGI SIYA MAY REBAT AYAW NYA MAG PATALO KAYA NAUUWI SA MALALANG MURAHAN, INSULT AND SO ON) (Dumadating na sa point na nag mumurahsn na kmi, nag lalabassn na ng baho at kapangitsn sa isat isa, nag sasabihan na ng mga turn off—so Yun na nga those are only a few of the small argument that turned into big arguments between me and my boyfriend, Inexample ko lang para Naman maintindahan niyo pinag dadaanan ko. So Ayun na nga ilang days na kami Hindi nag uusap and last night mother day I greeted his mother, and kani kanina lang I texted him saying "when are you going to officially tell them na mag hihiwalay na tayo? Because it really feels so awkward talking to your mom especially if you become one of the topic" (another context botong boto Kase Sakin buong pamilya nya kaya ko sinabi na gawin na niya official para Wala na miscommunication at Wala na madamay pang ibang tao na inosente Naman) alam niyo ba kasagot sagot Sakin? "Ewan ko, manahimik ka putangina"

Na caught off guard Ako Kase kung kailan I'm ready to talk after a few days na Wala pag uusap gnun niya Ako sagutin? (Mind you Hindi pa niya Ako inalis sa highlights niya sa fb na may 30k followers, Hindi pa niya binubura Yung TikTok namin dalawa sa TikTok niya na may almost 500k followers)

So right now I don't really know what to do, I started praying and asking God to give me a sign and to give me strength wether to still fight for this relationship and fix us, or to cool off and distance myself first because the fire is still there? Or to complete break up and move on.

I need someone's thoughts Kase I'm really at lost, my emotions are eating me up.

Problem/goal: Matagal na kami ng boyfriend ko, mag 7 years na kami sa ganitong set up, pero unti unti ay dumadating na Ako sa punto kung saan nag sasawa na Ako sa ganung set up, nowadays Ang gusto ko na palagi kami magka sama, or kung pwede lang live in na e, pero Yun na nga Ang eksena.

Napapadalas na palagi akong iritable at Galit sa kanya but the truth is gusto ko lang Naman na magkasama kmi palagi, gusto ko puntahan niya Ako.

Dumadating din Ako sa point kung saan naiinggit Ako everytime na may makikita akong mag jowa na nag dadate or mga pda sa harap ko, naiirita Ako na Ewan tapos na mimiss ko Siya.

Hindi ko alam kung paano ko ma overcome to, napapadalas Yung away at tampuhan, to the point na nakaka drain na, nasa punto na Ako na kung saan palaging may kulang. I tried talking to him about what I truly think and feel about our situation, but Ang Sabi nya that's all he can give as of the moment. Oo needy Ako sa atensyon, at physical touch Ang love language ko, Minsan sinisisi ko Ang sarili ko na pumasok Ako sa ganitong relationship e ganun Pala love language ko, but I also can't blame myself Kase he's my first official boyfriend, lahat ng naging ka M.U ko e online lang den so not until I feel his touch (my current bf) doon ko lanh na realize na I want someone who's here with me physically, someone na mayayakap ko tuwing pagod Ako, someone na makakasama ko mag cafe, someone na maipag luluto ko.. Yung mga ganung bagay ba.. may mga times din na 4-5 months Ako nag aantay bago kami mag kita and it was really hard for me, I am faithful enough para tumagal ng 7 years, kaya din siguro nag build up Yung Galit ko sa kanya Kase I'm always waiting for him.

later on, I found out na may balak Pala Siya mag work abroad, it makes me think na... so.. gaano pa katagal?? ilang putang inang taon pa Yung aantayin ko?? Ang hirap ng sitwasyon namin, nahihirapan Ako pero Hindi ko kayang bumitaw Kase MAHAL KO E, pero nasasaktan na din Kase Ako.

moving on—andito pa Naman Siya sa pinas Hanggang ngayon, pero Kase ngyon andito na kami sa Punto na parang malapit na kami mag fall apart because of our situation e.. mahal na mahal ko Siya, kailangan ko Siya, pero nahihirapan na Ako... Hindi ko na alam kung gaano pa ba Ako katagal mag aantay.

Problem/goal: hi everyone, first time voter here for the next upcoming election.

Gusto ko lang malaman opinions niyo, I've been wanting to ask this to someone na kakilala Ako but I'm afraid na baka ma misjudged Ako or what so I'll just say it here instead. So here's the question

Leni or Sarah?

Why? And why not?

Provide me some factual evidence about their platforms and contributions sa mga sasabihin niyo because I don't wanna be biased and ayoko din ma brainwashed, gusto ko lang mag based sa mga naging magandang DULOT sa bansang Pilipinas at sa mamamayan.

Thank you, your reply will be highly appreciated.