u/Dazzling-Estimate-91

Hiii I am married to a senegalese man and our cultures are a bit different. What are some things that West African men appreciate about women in marriage? I want to make my husband very happy and could use any cultural advice. I do all the basics already, cooking, cleaning, I am the main care taker for our children, I show him lots of love and talk him up. But what else can I do?

ALSO: I would love to learn WOLOF. Are there any apps or shows I can watch? I want to surprise him with some wolof in my vocabulary haha.

Hello. I am married 27(f) with 30(m). Is it wrong that my husband wants to always give money to people back home but we are severly struggling ourselves. We dont live together and have 2 children. We barely see each other due to this and I really compromise on our needs (myself and the kids). I work as well and im trying to show patience but this is so frustrating because I need to a home of my own so my kids can have their privacy and I can be with husband. Is this wrong of me? Will Allah be displeased? His family back home struggles a lot. People cant find work and cant pay bills or rent. Idk. Im just frustraded because I want stability for my kids and mysef its been 2 years since we hae lived together and it feels like im working and cant move forward. No house no car cant do anything for myself. Please any advice

Hi. My husband and I are in our late 20s have been married for 5 years. 2 children. Our entire marriage we have been extremely unstable - never had our own place. I’ve worked full time while being post partum and fully taking care of both kids. We lived with my FIL for a year and it was a home full of males. 4-6 at a time. I cooked and cleaned for everyone, while working FT from home and FT childcare of course. Ive been barely surviving i cant keep my weight due to lack of sleep and exhaustion. My appetite is out of wack. My husband has had his challenges, depression, cant keep a job, substance abuse. Hes better more stable now. However I am
not ok. We still dont live together and are working towards that but we fight so much. I pray 5 times a day ofc, read as much quran as i can. im a revert and islam isnt easy to learn, arabic has been hard on me. I love Islam so much and I have so much guilt because I strugge so much to learn arabic and memorize surahs and really deepen myself into the religion. I work overnight and watch our kids during the day. I dont go out, dont spend on myself nothing. Im so depressed i can barely play with my toddler. I hate who I see in the mirror and my husband is harsh with me. He is right in some things but he is harsh and when I lash out (i admit i do almost every other day) he silent treats me. I am drowning. I feel like Allah is punishing me. I feel paralyzed and alone. but i have two babies who need me 💔

I really need advice, I feel so jumbled, its feels paralyzing and I truly have no person to talk to about any of this.