u/Dazzling-Basis-6123

i grew up in the suburbs my whole life, with parents who insisted i strip away the Black parts of myself to be "respectable". so i have always had white friends. this was never really an issue for me until i started speaking my mind. i had no choice. being 'the perfect Black' for years has pressurized me into a ticking time bomb, and people seem to never like the version of me that actually speaks my mind. i have lost more friends in the past 6 months just by actually being honest about my thoughts and feelings than i have in my entire life. and i'm never mean or rude about it. the worst i'll get is stating things in a matter of fact way. i will NOT placate your feelings, but i have no reason to belittle you. today i politely told someone who i have plans to move in with, that they can't just call white supremacy when someone says something you don't like. they are now saying that they don't know if we can live together anymore. there are details that i left out, but none of them would change the fact that this person is fucking with my housing over a disagreement. the white entitlement is fucking killing me and i hate that this is the environment i've created for myself. i have such a hard time finding Black community in my city. i regularly get misgendered in queer spaces and those who i share interests and values with are all significantly older than me. that's fine, but i would really like to be friends with and date people in my own demographic for one singular time in my life. having my friend group blown up for the umpteenth time due to white fragility, i'm just done. i'm finished and i want nothing to do with this shit