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I (17F) had prom this last weekend, and it was really nice. The night didn’t start out well but it got better after me and one of my classmates danced together after I had asked. He was super sweet all night, made me feel like the center of attention blah blah blah.

It was magical for me, I’m not conventionally attractive and often have self esteem issues, but at prom I felt just good about myself. I shouldn’t have let the way he was treating me get to my head, but I did.

I kept thinking about it, how nice he treated me, how he made me feel, even down to just holding my hand the entire time we were together. It felt good to feel like that.

I haven’t dated anyone for coming up on one year now, which for teenagers is normal I know but during prom I thought I was finally ready again. I was hitting on him and I thought he was reciprocating it. I genuinely thought we were having a really good time; and I was. I have no anger towards this classmate.

Come to find out 2 days later through a mutual friend after I had asked (because I was genuinely interested in him) that he has no interest in me. Which is completely fine and understandable.

It’s just slightly disappointing, he had made me feel like the center of everything that night in a very teenage cringey way. I have no anger or resentment towards him, I just am slightly let down when I thought we had been flirting with each other just to find out that he was matching my energy.

It is what it is and I’ll get over it, sometimes people just aren’t into you and that’s completely fine. I’m not going to chase after him if he isn’t interested.

One of his friends had previously told me to try and hang out with him and become friends with him to move everything forward. However to me that just feels plain cruel. I don’t want to drag him into a friendship that was made purely based off of different intentions if he does not feel or think the same way.

I just wanted to get it off my chest the disappointment I’m feeling. As I’ve stated: I’ll get over it. I just normally don’t get the kind of attention i received on prom and kinda forget a lot of people don’t flirt in the same way I do. I just feel let down

Repost because I worded this wrong the first time around.
I (17F) went to prom this weekend, i initially went with a group that I slowly realized didn’t want me to be there. As the night went on I was just upset and i realized this guy that has a really good way of making people feel better was there (17M). Normally he is not the type of person I talk to, he by himself is a nice, friendly and kind person. Unfortunately in the class I have him in it’s a group of people that tends to be incredibly disruptive (though he himself isn’t the one causing it)which is something I often get annoyed at.

I asked him to dance with me because I figured what’s the worst that could happen, he agrees and a slow dance comes on so we slow dance (to the best of our abilities). He had made a few comments about how pretty I was and how he couldn’t think of why my group wouldn’t want to be with me.

So we ended up staying together for most of the night (8:30-10:00). Even when we weren’t on the dance floor he had kept his hands constantly intertwined with mine, we were having fun. He himself his fairly conventionally attractive but I don’t tend to find people “hot” or “attractive” until after I either get to know them or have things like this that make me see them in that light.

As the night kept going I kept realizing how glowing he looked, both of us smiling crazy and laughing constantly when we tripped over each other. It was nice. We at one point pulled out onto the patio with one of his friends taking couples photos and asked me to get one with him, and I did.

It just felt as if we both were genuinely having fun, the situation only coming to an end when around 10:00 he had to leave and now I keep thinking about those few hours and just how good he made me feel, his eyes didn’t wander away from mine unless we were collecting ourselves after laughing, constantly trying to make just us feel like the center of the room and overall it was just a cringy teenage moment. And yes I am incredibly aware it is a cringy situation.

But I can’t stop thinking about it and it’s making me wonder if this is something worth trying to talk to him about later on. I’m not sure if this is just him being platonic or if this is how guys act, or if this is just the whimsy of prom.

EDIT: we’ve known each other since freshman year (now juniors) and we both have each other’s instagram. We’ve been fairly friendly all 3 years and as far as I’m aware have never had any issues with each other.