u/Dapper-Record9961

I want to run a 5k. Honestly where i live, in my social circle, its crazy that i havent. But i really want to, i enjoy running, and i want to DO SOMETHING thats just for ME.

But like this entire winter my toddler has been in a sleep regression and both kids are sick constantly. More than any other year. So im genuinely asking the moms that run races or anything like that, how the fuck do you deal with the constant set backs? Its SO demoralizing and frustrating and then i HATE myself for caring at all and not just being happy to care for my kids when they need me. Which i actually do love. I love holding a sick little guy, but thats its own can of worms, because my PTO isnt great so i have to be very strategic in using it—because literally all my PTO is scheduled out to care for my kids on their various school breaks and theres very little wiggle room for sickness.

Asking here to hopefully be able to show comments to my neighbor so please be polite.

We have young kids, one with special needs and she would be over the moon if we had a tree swing in our front yard. We live in a townhouse condo/HOA. Everyone is very chill and theres a live and let live vibe here. The front yard is a common space we share w a neighbor and all pay for maintenance w our hoa dues.

We mentioned to our neighbor that we would be hanging the swing and he told us absolutely not because his wife (they are elderly and don’t get out much) loves to watch the birds use the birdhouse in the tree and a swing would cause all birds to permanently abandon the tree. My children are in school full time so they arent home mon-fri 8 to 5. So realistically the swing would be used for about 20 minutes on weekday evenings and randomly on weekends. Also my kid might surprise us and decide she doesn’t like swings anymore.

So here’s the thing, these people have an aggressive cat who’s always outside. I also have a bird feeder in my front garden and see birds constantly throughout the day. They also nest in the tree. I have never once seen a bird use the birdhouse thats currently hanging in the tree which is apparently my neighbors prized possession in life. Theres also a backyard filled w bluejays. Plus chipmunks, bunnies and frogs galore.

Extremely important fact here, HOA by laws have zero mention of trees or swings and HOA board DOES NOT CARE. Many others have swings or hammocks in their trees.

So, please settle this debate. Will hanging a swing in a large maple tree cause all birds to permanently abandon the tree and the area in general????

I would imagine maybe theyd need to adjust to a child USING the swing but would still forage for their food and build their nests high up in the tree like they do every year.