Need Help/Clarity about realistic emotional expectations in marriage
We’re approaching our 3 year wedding anniversary in a couple of months. Husband is early 40s, I (F30), we have a very active 2 yr old. I work typical M-F 8 to 5, he on the other hand works in hospitality management 10 to 12 hour days. Lately he’s been working anywhere from 7 to 10 days straight with 4 days off.
I don’t understand men at all. I try my hardest to show my husband that I love him, I appreciate all of his sacrifices for our family, and his hard work. I show it with words, cards, sweet random texts, making him food or drink items he likes, massages. Due to his work schedule I’m the default parent. I take time off work to take our child to weekly appointments that he needs, I make dinner and do night time routine with our child, weekends feel like work since I’m home with our child and I feel like I have to be on.
I just want to hear more your beautiful. To hear I’m really thankful for all you do for our child. To hear I’m really thankful for all you do that allows me to be able to do the things I do. I want to be taken out on a date that he has planned for us, that I didn’t ask for, beg for or plan myself. Lately it’s just been how tired he is from work, from working out, from the stress at work, stress about bills, etc.
What am I missing? Am I naive? Am I not being realistic? Are my expectations too high?