I cannot believe I am turning to Reddit for this, but here we go. So, I am in a relationship with my gf for about 8 months now. Things have started getting serious, we have spent most (literally) of our time together since the start of our relatinship.
Marriage of course came up and taking my surname is a tradition in my culture. She said she does not want to because of the origin of the practice, which I feel is a valid stance, but the problem is my parents.
My parents are very traditional in that regard and say that it is necessary to take my surname in some way, that my kids should too, because of tradition. They are very likely to disown me if I decide to go against this practice.
My girlfriend is generally a very compromising person and has changed even since the start of our relationship, for context I am her first actually stable relationship. This feels even worse for me, because I acknowledge she might change it just to keep the relationship, she has folded on some things before this as well.
I have been trying to convince both sides of the opposite opinion to theirs - my family to accepting people keeping their names and my gf of taking mine, at least with hyphenation. I asked my gf if she thinks she might change her stance, she did not answer. She usually says things directly how she thinks them. She tried the compromises - us both hyphenating or creating a new surname. They are not viable for me, even though I'd love to start a new name with her.
There is also the fact we are both very young, so there is a real chance for change. Please help me, this has been torturing me for a while. If you need additional info, just write in the comments.
EDIT: No, a marriage is not even close, not at all. I just think things should be discussed beforehand.