‘I sleep with guys but I’m not gay, bi or whatever’
I saw this meme on TikTok saying modern dating requires you to ask variations of the question ‘are you single?’ on dating apps, and I started doing this to my matches and I’ve honestly been quite shocked by the results!
Most* matches pass all the variations of the question, but this particular match said ‘He probably likes me but I don’t date men,’ in reply to the question ‘does anyone think they are in a relationship with you?’
I asked him to expand on that, and turns out he’s sleeping with the guy but ‘isnt gay or whatever.’ I said yea I assumed he was bi or pan since he matched with me and I’m a woman. He said he’s not ‘part of the LGBTQ community’ in any way…
He said he isn’t gay because he doesn’t have romantic feelings for men. I introduced him to terms like heteroromantic and heteroflexible but he refused saying he was a straight man but men are easier to sleep with…
It’s one of the most bizarre confessions I’ve had. I could feel the self hatred in his messages and there was nothing I could say to convince this guy that he isn’t fully straight. I literally just spent about 1 hour arguing for no reason.