so some back story is needed here , I 22M live at home with my parents and basically every year until recently i have received gifts for christmas/birthdays/easter from my parents , of course as i became an adult with a job i reciprocated the gift giving.
This past christmas I had given both my parents what i thought were very thoughtful gifts , to eventually learn on christmas day that they did not get me anything , while they were handing out gifts to my older siblings ( who do not live w them ) i couldn’t help but ask why i was left out and to which my dad says “you live here for free what more do ya want” and my mom completely ignored me
this obviously left me feeling sad but i kept my composure since it was christmas and i was not trying to make a scene and my siblings got me gifts so it was fine i guess?
my birthday then comes around in february and i have NOT made a big deal about my birthday since i was 18 , HOWEVER my parents ALWAYS get me a gift ( as i do for them ), i mean just last year i was gifted a new turntable for my records … to my surprise nothing this year.
day after my birthday i confront my mom and dad and ask why they decided to not get me anything for my birthday this year and imho they just said some random BS they pulled out of their ass followed by “you need to realize life is not all rainbows and holding onto your childhood” the BS they said before didn’t bother me but this was an odd statement considering i have a job and pay my bills , i put two and two together and figure it’s about me not having moved out like my older siblings and then ask again why my siblings got gifts for Christmas and i did not.
my mom responds with something along the lines of “they have a real hands on experience with being an adult , if i can make their adulthood just a little bit nicer on them im going to do it” ( these are not her exact words but it’s basically what was said as my mom is bilingual sometimes what she says in english wouldn’t sound normal to another english only speaking person )
not surprised but even though my mom and I have made each other easter baskets since i was 15 this year it was nothing on both ends.
fast forward to today at dinner my mom mentions how mother’s day is less than a week away and to which i reply in a snarky manor “only moms who get their sons gifts get mother’s day gifts” … she did NOT like that one bit and then proceeded to say she gave me the gift of life and gave me the speech about how her and my father are going to pass one day
i could keep going on with this but it seems this post is already very long… so WIBTAH???
TLDR: parents did not get me gifts for special occasions but did for siblings who have moved out , they seem to not like when they get a taste of their own medicine.