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I’m curious how folks doing OE handle getting laid off, or the awkwardness during the 2 week notice period.

In the past when I either wanted to leave a job, knew I was going to get fired, or had another job lined up, going through the professional bs dance of pretending were all sad I’m leaving the team when actually none of this matters and I don’t want to fill out a detailed hand off plan. I found it hard to keep a straight face at times or know what to say because I was so mentally checked out by then.

How do OE people who are leaving one J maintain any professionalism during that 2 week window? When I’m assuming you’re not all that upset leaving a job.

Hi! My brother recently passed away by taking his own life. It has made dig back into what was going on in our childhood that would have stuck with him into adult him, and resulted in his life never really taking off.

It is my belief that my father is a Narc, and mom has BPD, but cluster 2 personality disorders are so similar and I am not a psychologist. I'm starting to think my parents had different Golden Children, me vs my brother. We were twins and we have no other siblings so it was just us 4. Did anyone else have this experience?

I'll share more and please feel free to let me know what you think! For a long time in my family I was the scapegoat, I was the truth-sayer, I called my narc dad on his bs as young as 8 years old. At 11 I accidentally spent money on my dads amazon acct on cheap makeup (during beauty youtuber phase) I wasn't supposed to, and he basically didn't speak to me for 2 years, acted like I betrayed him, like I hated him, like I did it to him on purpose. I was 11.

My brother was troublesome, would scream and fight and break things. He struggled in school, and my parents tended to walk on egg shells around him. I always resented all the attention, care, gentleness he got, while I was held to much much much higher standards. I was expected to basically parent myself.

However, as my dad started to turn my mom into the scapegoat over the years, my mom shifted from enabling my dad to playing into this us vs them dynamic. She let my dad fixate on my brother and she took more interest in me. As a kid I saw this as her giving me what my dad should have, doing 200% parenting to fill the gap of my dad who didn't care about me. My dad would often threaten to leave and say things like my mom can take "her daughter" and that he would take my brother, as if he stopped seeing me as his responsibility. My mom accepted that my brother was less interested in a close relationship with her, most teenage boys are pretty mean to their moms, and I think she kinda gave up on him and just focused on being super close with me, which as an adult has become very uncomfortable for me. She will kiss or hug me forcibly, ask for hugs when she's sad, and then run away and avoid me if I try to talk about my own feelings. Now that in adulthood my mom continues to show signs of BPD, I wonder if this was actually her turning me into her golden child, and playing into the triangulating happening in our house.

I'm honestly open to any opinions, now that my brother is gone, I don't have anyone to bounce these ideas off of. But obviously narc abuse is so confusing so its really hard to sift through the past and try to understand how my brother might have saw this stuff vs how I saw it. Thanks!!