Am I Overreacting for Uninviting my brother and his family to my sons Graduation party.
Ok so let me start, I (F39) my brother (M40) have not gotten along ever. Recently we have been trying to have a sibling relationship. Last year we moved our mother up to a northern state, she moved into my brother's guest house, she couldnt really afford the place and his family wanted her to move in with them to "help" around their house, my sister in law and mother argued im guessing frequently. It then erupted into a large argument and mom was forced to leave their home and move in with me. She tried looking for a new place to live, found an apartment but needed references. So since she lived with her son, my brother, she put him down as a reference. When they got the paperwork in the mail, my sis in law put down, mom owed them alot of money in rent and she didnt pay her bills. Well this hurt my mom's chances of getting her own place. When I asked my brother about it he acted like it wasnt a big deal. Anyways we argued alot. Now mom and my brother are not talking. Mom lives with me. My son is graduating this summer. We are planning his graduation party, since my mom and brother are not talking I decided to call my brother and his wife to tell them I think it would be best if they do not come to the grad party because I dont want tension or arguments there on a day that's about my son. My sis in law was arguing with me about how they weren't even gunna show up. My brother is upset that I called to "uninvite" them. But they never received an official invite and I want to make sure no arguments happen on my sons day! So was I overreacting to uninvite my brother and his family to my sons graduation party for his issues with our mom?