u/Cute-Mistake8084

There’s this guy I have a strong connection with whenever we meet in person, the chemistry is very real. He’s warm, attentive, makes an effort, and there’s definitely a pull. But outside of that, he can be pretty inconsistent and often says he’s busy. And the girl who introduced us to each other has been meddling too much.

She's always telling me that he's a player and that he isn't emotionally unavailable. I told him everything thinking it would solve everything but they are still friends and she continues to be besties with him. Basically, all my worst fears coming true.

More recently, he’s been very open about his physical attraction and said he’d like to explore that side first, with a “let’s see where it goes after” kind of mindset. Not that he has initiated anything. I do feel the attraction too, but I’m also trying to stay mindful because I know I can get emotionally invested once there’s a connection.

What do I do? How and why am I creating this?

I’m currently manifesting a specific person and would love some perspective.

There’s a guy I have a strong connection with - when we meet in person, the chemistry is undeniable. He’s warm, attentive, makes sure we spend time together, and there’s a clear pull.
But outside of that, he’s inconsistent and says he’s busy, so there’s not much follow-through.

There was also some third-party interference from a mutual acquaintance who got overly involved and may have created confusion. I addressed it with him, and he reassured me that he doesn’t think badly of me and wants to move past it but he continues to hang out with her without reaching out to me.

Recently, when we got into a long discussion (he was reluctant) he expressed strong physical attraction and said he wants to explore that side first, with a “let’s see where it goes after” mindset. But failed to make a concrete plan even then.
I’m also feeling the attraction, but I’m trying to stay aligned with my self-concept and not fall into old patterns of over-attaching.

From a manifestation perspective, I believe circumstances don’t matter and that my self-concept creates the outcome. I’m working on staying in the state of being chosen and not chasing.

Would love input on:

• how to stay aligned without reacting to the 3D
• how to not get triggered by inconsistency
• and how to hold the belief that this can evolve into something more