I'm 25, Canadian, been on hormones for just over a year, been out for almost two years, 6ft2, some noteworthy breast growth, and never get gendered correctly by anyone outside my close friend group.
I can understand it sometimes, when I'm at work my uniform, which includes an apron, doesn't exactly make me look very feminine. But I can go to the store in a dress with a full face of makeup and feel the most beautiful and feminine I have in my life and will get called "Sir" by everyone there.
It's incredibly discouraging, and whenever I try to talk about it to my friends or local trans support group, I'm always met with the same "well passing doesn't matter as long as you feel good" I do feel good till I start feeling like no one sees me the way I want them to. And "as long as they're not feeding you, fu*king you or financing you, it doesn't matter" ok, well my job kinda does two of three of those, all three if you count them f*cking me on scheduling.
And I just feel like I'm insane, I'm surrounded by all of these people who don't care if they pass or not, and act like I'm in the wrong for wanting to go at least one full day without being called Sir.
I'm sorry, I guess that got into a bit of a rant, but I guess this is also the only place I can get the extent of my feelings out without being cutoff and told "what others think don't matter"
I just want to figure out what I can do to break this cycle of misgendering, I want to know that I'm not the only person in the world who cares if they pass.
I literally got to the point that most days I ask myself "does anyone see me at a woman?"