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I (introverted, m18) have been crushing on this girl (extroverted, f19) from many of my classes for over a year now. She added me first on Snap in October so I accepter her request. She broke up with her ex of 7 months in November but I didn‘t want to approach her right after that. Before January, we‘ve talked a few times casually and she was always warm and friendly.

I texted her about 80s music in late January because I knew she was into that music as well. She was very keen in the conversation, we exchanged playlists on spotify and agreed how old music was better etc. She send me directly a snap with her tongue out and the next day we texted more about it and agreed to meet up to exchange more songs. Right after we agreed on what our favorite song was, she did a story on insta, lip syncing the exact same song.

The next day we exchanged face snaps too and I asked her when we‘d meet up. We agreed on a specific day. But on that day a lot of her teachers were sick and she didn‘t come to school but hasn‘t texted me. I decided to dm her about that and appologised about being annoying. She reassured me and we agreed on meeting on Wednesday (February 3rd).

The hangout (about an hour) went great. She showed me the remaining songs and opened up about her parents divorcing. She got her drivers license recently and when I was about to go she offered to take me to the store I wanted to go. We talked more and laughed during it as well.

Neither of us talked inbetween. Then we talked a bit on February 13th about an exam we both took again. I initiated again but she was again very friendly and open. But after that she stopped opening my roundsnaps for almost 2 weeks and the playlist disappeared again.

A few days later (late February) I texted her whether anything is wrong or if I did something bad because of the said reasons. And immediately opened my snaps, put the playlist on public again and reassured me again. I told her I‘m introverted and she said I can approach her and that she „won‘t bite 😝“. We talked like 2 times casually/briefly and she smiled was friendly like always.

Real school days ended in late March. I thought about giving her a letter on the last school but didn‘t have the confidence. But I decided to dm her on snap, asking her whether she wants to meet up to study maths (for the upcomming finals). She said „sure why not!!“ and when I asked her when she said she‘d have to look but she‘ll text me. Next day I told her when I can‘t and she said she‘s busy in the same week as well but will text me.

But just a few days after (April 10th) she suddenly got a new boyfriend which explains why she hasn‘t texted back. I didn‘t see this comming he literally appeared out of nowhere (and based on her reposts she was definitely single until early March).

I feel extremely stupid and guilty I was not confident enough and didn‘t escalate. That I was too slow and careful and now paid my price for it. Or what do you think? On the other hand she did talk with her friends (including guy friends) in her circle a lot but never said hi to me or texted me first. But she was always to warm and I can‘t tell if it was my fault. It‘s been 20 days and I can‘t stop crying.

I (introverted, m18) have been crushing on this girl (extroverted, f19) from many of my classes for over a year now. She added me first on Snap in October so I accepter her request. She broke up with her ex of 7 months in November but I didn‘t want to approach her right after that. Before January, we‘ve talked a few times casually and she was always warm and friendly.

I texted her about 80s music in late January because I knew she was into that music as well. She was very keen in the conversation, we exchanged playlists on spotify and agreed how old music was better etc. She send me directly a snap with her tongue out and the next day we texted more about it and agreed to meet up to exchange more songs. Right after we agreed on what our favorite song was, she did a story on insta, lip syncing the exact same song.

The next day we exchanged face snaps too and I asked her when we‘d meet up. We agreed on a specific day. But on that day a lot of her teachers were sick and she didn‘t come to school but hasn‘t texted me. I decided to dm her about that and appologised about being annoying. She reassured me and we agreed on meeting on Wednesday (February 3rd).

The hangout (about an hour) went great. She showed me the remaining songs and opened up about her parents divorcing. She got her drivers license recently and when I was about to go she offered to take me to the store I wanted to go. We talked more and laughed during it as well.

Neither of us talked inbetween. Then we talked a bit on February 13th about an exam we both took again. I initiated again but she was again very friendly and open. But after that she stopped opening my roundsnaps for almost 2 weeks and the playlist disappeared again.

A few days later (late February) I texted her whether anything is wrong or if I did something bad because of the said reasons. And immediately opened my snaps, put the playlist on public again and reassured me again. I told her I‘m introverted and she said I can approach her and that she „won‘t bite 😝“. We talked like 2 times casually/briefly and she smiled was friendly like always.

Real school days ended in late March. I thought about giving her a letter on the last school but didn‘t have the confidence. But I decided to dm her on snap, asking her whether she wants to meet up to study maths (for the upcomming finals). She said „sure why not!!“ and when I asked her when she said she‘d have to look but she‘ll text me. Next day I told her when I can‘t and she said she‘s busy in the same week as well but will text me.

But just a few days after (April 10th) she suddenly got a new boyfriend which explains why she hasn‘t texted back. I didn‘t see this comming he literally appeared out of nowhere (and based on her reposts she was definitely single until early March).

I feel extremely stupid and guilty I was not confident enough and didn‘t escalate. That I was too slow and careful and now paid my price for it. Or what do you think? On the other hand she did talk with her friends (including guy friends) in her circle a lot but never said hi to me or texted me first. But she was always to warm and I can‘t tell if it was my fault. It‘s been 20 days and I can‘t stop crying.

I (introverted, m18) have been crushing on this girl (extroverted, f19) from many of my classes for over a year now. She added me first on Snap in October so I accepter her request. She broke up with her ex of 7 months in November but I didn‘t want to approach her right after that. Before January, we‘ve talked a few times casually and she was always warm and friendly.

I texted her about 80s music in late January because I knew she was into that music as well. She was very keen in the conversation, we exchanged playlists on spotify and agreed how old music was better etc. She send me directly a snap with her tongue out and the next day we texted more about it and agreed to meet up to exchange more songs. Right after we agreed on what our favorite song was, she did a story on insta, lip syncing the exact same song.

The next day we exchanged face snaps too and I asked her when we‘d meet up. We agreed on a specific day. But on that day a lot of her teachers were sick and she didn‘t come to school but hasn‘t texted me. I decided to dm her about that and appologised about being annoying. She reassured me and we agreed on meeting on Wednesday (February 3rd).

The hangout (about an hour) went great. She showed me the remaining songs and opened up about her parents divorcing. She got her drivers license recently and when I was about to go she offered to take me to the store I wanted to go. We talked more and laughed during it as well.

Neither of us talked inbetween. Then we talked a bit on February 13th about an exam we both took again. I initiated again but she was again very friendly and open. But after that she stopped opening my roundsnaps for almost 2 weeks and the playlist disappeared again.

A few days later (late February) I texted her whether anything is wrong or if I did something bad because of the said reasons. And immediately opened my snaps, put the playlist on public again and reassured me again. I told her I‘m introverted and she said I can approach her and that she „won‘t bite 😝“. We talked like 2 times casually/briefly and she smiled was friendly like always.

Real school days ended in late March. I thought about giving her a letter on the last school but didn‘t have the confidence. But I decided to dm her on snap, asking her whether she wants to meet up to study maths (for the upcomming finals). She said „sure why not!!“ and when I asked her when she said she‘d have to look but she‘ll text me. Next day I told her when I can‘t and she said she‘s busy in the same week as well but will text me.

But just a few days after (April 10th) she suddenly got a new boyfriend which explains why she hasn‘t texted back. I didn‘t see this comming he literally appeared out of nowhere (and based on her reposts she was definitely single until early March).

I feel extremely stupid and guilty I was not confident enough and didn‘t escalate. That I was too slow and careful and now paid my price for it. Or what do you think? On the other hand she did talk with her friends (including guy friends) in her circle a lot but never said hi to me or texted me first. But she was always to warm and I can‘t tell if it was my fault. It‘s been 20 days and I can‘t stop crying.