Childfree at 25 with adenomyosis, does the pressure ever stop?
I'm 25F, almost 26. I've been sure about not wanting kids for as long as I can remember. About a year ago, I was diagnosed with adenomyosis. That has nothing to do with my decision, but it's given me a "legitimate medical reason" to push for a hysterectomy, and it also explains why some of periods made me want to claw my way out of my own body. It started when i was just a teen.. it took around 10 years to diagnose.... before which i ws just dramatic or asked to suffer through it...
What I can't figure out is why no one around me gets it. People either pity me because I "can't" have kids, or they're the weird ones who think adenomyosis isn't real, or insist my symptoms will magically improve after I have a baby.
Since the diagnosis, everything has shifted with my family. My mom, who had me at 32, has been pressuring me harder than ever to either freeze my eggs or "settle down" with someone. We have been fighting through almost all the calls since last few months..... I don't want to do the things shes asking, at least not for the reasons she's pushing. It genuinely hurts that my own parents fall into that second camp, treating me like I'm morally broken for even considering sterilization. They guilt-trip me constantly. Saying things like you're an only child... why are u so hell bent on ending our line, you'll change my mind... and my favorite you'll end up alone and regret everytime u look back in 10-15 years.
I'm not totally sure why I'm posting this. I guess I want to hear from women who've been through some version of this. Does it get easier with age? Do people eventually back off? What did you do?