My (25F) ex roommate and ex best friend and her (32M) boyfriend and I split after some disagreements on where to move once our lease was up. We both moved out the same weekend and it gave us time to clean since we still had about 2 weeks left on the lease. I went back whenever I had time and cleaned my room, my bathroom, vacuumed the main hallway, and the kitchen counters. There was still a lot of food in the fridge and pantry that belonged to my roommates, so I was under the impression they would pack them later. The living room I hadn't touched since it was a massive mess caused by their pets, messes that included accidents, torn carpet, etc. I didn't touch any of it and I had warned her before moving out that I would not be helping with it since I never went into the living room and they were not my pets. We hadn't seen each other anytime I went back and she ignored all of my texts anytime I asked her about when she would clean.
Fast forward 3 months after I've sent multiple messages asking about the security deposit and she claims shes not going to send me anything because I hadn't helped her clean. I told her I did, but she argued that the living room had been digusting. I shot back that it was her and her boyfriends and their pets mess and she claimed it was a shared space, therefore I should have helped. I thought this was bullshit since like I said I never, and I seriously mean never, went into the living room (it was part anxiety and part her bf was always home and would be in my space if I was out which made me extremely uncomfortable) So I told her that if she doesn't return my portion of the security desosit that I would take it to civil court.
She relented (my portion was a little over $1400, it was an expensive place which is also why we wanted to move), but gave me less and claiming that was all she was willing to give. I figured whatever I got some of it, but I'm still annoyed about it. I don't think me not cleaning their mess should equate to me getting less than half of my deposit returned. I've told a few people, but they all agree I should've just sucked it up and cleaned.
So, am I the AH for not cleaning up my roommates messes?