A year on I look and feel better than I have for years - how to deal with the unwanted interest?
I broke up with my ex almost a year ago, followed by lots of stress including going no contact with my abusive mother. I’m a single mother to a 4 year old now. I am suddenly taking better care of myself, eating better, exercising more. I’m happier than I’ve been in years despite being tired from solo parenting. And I’m getting more attention as a result.
How did you guys deal with this? I would say I am conventionally attractive and have always been friendly/open (one of those people strangers open up to immediately). But I’m in my 40s now and honestly feeling annoyed that feeling better and looking healthier = unwanted male attention. I don’t want to stop being friendly/open. It’s how I’ve always been. And I’m ND so I struggle to notice the other person may be interested romantically until it’s too late.
ETA: It isn’t just propositions but general male attention that’s irritating to me be that staring at me or whatever. I really don’t want this to sound like I’m seeking validation or boasting. But I was with my ex for 5 years, in grief from my dad dying for a year or two before that, and all that plus early motherhood totally exhausted me. I feel much more alive and “myself” again now. But the attention I’d get in my 20s and early 30s is of no interest to me now. I don’t need the validation I used to get. I guess I just have to suck it up and accept it’s a minor irritation akin to flies turning up when the weather turns nice.