u/Curiousity_catt

I've been sitting with something for a while and I want to think out loud with the women here, because I trust this sub to be honest with me in a way the rest of the internet isn't.

Somewhere in my late 20s I noticed that adult friendship had quietly become one of the hardest things in my life. Not in a dramatic way. More like a slow ache that kept arriving at strange hours — a Tuesday evening, the walk home from a dinner where I'd said all the right things, the seventh "we should catch up soon" left unanswered in a group chat. The realization that I had plenty of acquaintances, work people, brunch people, group chats — and almost no one who really knew me. The kind of friendship that has the texture of repetition and trust, not novelty and reservations.

I think a lot of us hit this wall sometime in our late 20s or early 30s. And most of the conventional advice is some version of "just put yourself out there" — which isn't advice. It's a hope dressed up in workout clothes.

I'm working on something for this. Not to replace the real work — the showing up, the vulnerability, the long slow build — but to see if technology can be used with more care. We're already on our phones. Most of what's there is making us lonelier, not less lonely. I want to find out if it's possible to build something that does the opposite. Something quieter. Something that gives back instead of takes.

Before I commit to one direction, I wanted to ask the women here, because you are who I'm building for. I'd rather be informed by your reality than by my own assumptions.

Three directions I'm sitting with. I genuinely don't know which one would land:

1. The Inner World Profile. A thoughtful questionnaire that maps how you actually move through the world — your values, your communication style, what you're drawn to, how you behave in groups. You get a beautifully designed portrait of yourself at the end. Eventually it powers matching with people whose worlds complement yours.

2. Small Group Matching. Skip the self-portrait piece. You sign up, get placed in a group of 5–6 women in your city who were matched for compatibility, you meet up. The group repeats monthly, so the friendship has a chance to actually build, not just spark and fade.

3. Connection Itineraries. Curated routes for actual friendship-making — not "best brunch in the city" but places and rhythms designed around how real conversation and trust form. Group-friendly. Organized by what kind of evening you want.

All three eventually become one product. But I can only build one first, and I want to build the one that you would actually use.

Three real questions, and I'll read every reply:

• Which would you actually try? Why?
• If you've made real friends in your 30s, how did it actually happen? I want to hear stories more than advice — the texture of how it actually unfolded for you.
• What's the failure mode you'd be scared of with something like this? What would make you not trust it?

Thank you for thinking with me. I genuinely mean it.