u/Curious_Wing_2018

Hi. I am 35, Mom to be almost one year-old. Baby girl.

My current dilemma is that I don’t want to quit my job to be an SAHM I’ve always been the person who just work. I love working. I’ve always worked fast paced, hectic, fun jobs, like working in the kitchen, etc.

I currently work at an airport. I am a ramp agent. I’m outside in the sun, working with loud equipment, loud large, 737 aircrafts. I drive heavy machinery, I push out aircrafts, I stack bags, I drop bags. It’s all over the place, and I love it. My coworkers are great. They treated me so well and kind when I was pregnant as I was the first pregnant woman to be at the airport in 10 years.

Apart from flight benefits, the only thing that really sucks about the job. Is you have to stay at the airport until your plane leaves. At least for my airport, it’s a regional one, not a hub. So that means I don’t have a solid out time.

This is causing a ton of strain between My Husband and I. He wants me to leave my job and stay at home full-time. Granted, I don’t make as much money as he does, as he does ride share, and he is a self contracted handyman. He comes home really late, six or 5 AM and then he has to be up to stay with our daughter from 1045 up until I come home. As I had mentioned, having to stay until your flight is off the ground is really the biggest strain.

He works around the clock when I’m on my days off. When I come home after my scheduled time, he immediately goes to sleep because he gets no sleep while I am at work.

So many times lately, but I just want to turn in my badge and just call it. There have been so many times we have gotten into fights and arguments about my job, how to make little to no money, we don’t use the benefits and that it’s better that I stay at home and he’ll give me money for what I need whenever.

I love my daughter, but being at the airport gives me the “me time” I get from being outside of the house. I love my husband as well, and I don’t want to cause any more strife because of this low paying job that I love I don’t want to be a stay at home mom, I need to suck it up and face the reality that that’s probably what I’m gonna have to do.

Anyways, I just wanted to air it out. Would like some advice if possible.

Hi. 35, first time Mom with an 11 month old baby girl.

I live in the state of California, and I have the WIC program. It’s definitely helped me out a lot, and I was told that allotment of purées and other food items may change as baby girl gets older.

I have a bad habit of not checking allotment or available balances of cards before going to the store. Today, that bad habit got me. I went and thinking I can get up to at least 32 containers of purée, which is the normal allotment.

I grabbed enough to have some leftover for the next trip, and I want to go to the self checkout. I swiped the cart after scanning everything, and it turns out that my remaining balance after the card was $14.68.

I currently am not doing well financially, and My Husband is working to pay the rent, so we’re both kind of tight right now. (don’t worry, we will make it, we always do. I’m just adding this for context, not trying to ask for sympathy )

The receipt that had printed after the transaction so I can continue it, showed that my allotment changed. It went from 32 containers to 16 containers.

I decided to void the whole transaction and just go back and pick out what I want because the things in the receipt were kind of all over the place and I didn’t wanna pick out the wrong thing. Also, I didn’t have the money to pay the remaining balance if I wanted the rest of the containers.

I flagged down a young man, who was working at the self checkout, let’s call him, Jay. I asked him, “ hi could you please void this transaction for me? I didn’t realize that WIC gave me less, and I also don’t have the money to pay for the rest of the Balance.”

I wasn’t trying to say in a way of sympathy, I was saying it, how I see it as just being realistic and straightforward.

The next thing that he did completely shocked me.

He said, “ don’t worry, I got you” and he paid the rest of the balance.

I said, “wait, are you serious?”. He said, “yeah, don’t worry about it.”

As soon as the receipt printed out, I cried. I turned to him and hugged him, and he said to me, “ is everything all right? If you need any help, just come back to me and I’ll see what I can do for you.” I cried as I hugged him, and I said thank you, thank you thank you.

I presented to him my daughter because she was covered in her stroller, and he said she’s beautiful.

He then got caught up in someone else’s conversation, and then I left. I once again said in tears to him as I was walking away, “thank you so much.” And he said with all the smiles, “you’re very welcome.”

I was astounded, and just taking like wow speechless. I was crying, just about how kind and generous that was considering the financial situation stressed that we’re going through right now.

I want to know what I can do to pay back or to give him something in return for this selfless favor that he did for me. Any ideas that I can do? Doordash gift card? Bring him lunch?

I’ll definitely pay it forward because of him.

Just know that there are kind of people out there in your time of need.