Hi all,
For context, I’m 20F and the guy I’m interested is 26M, almost 27 next month. Before it comes as a huge shock, we went on our first date and things went really well. We share a ton in common, we’re both the same nationality, and hes a pharmacist and I’ve been a pharmacy tech since I was 16, I’m also on the physican assistant track and will be in PA school in 2028 or possibly 2027 if I knocked down my pre-reqs more faster. Our first date lasted for 6 hours.
But I can tell he’s super inexperienced, and seemingly seems to have no real hobbies outside of work. He also has an iPhone 11 and didn’t use his phone ONCE during our date which came as a culture shock. He mentions he’s very off the grid when it comes to social media. He didn’t compliment me once during our date, and awkwardly enough I had to ask him to kiss me. I also made some flirtatious comments here and there, and he didn’t seem to reciprocate it back. He did pay for lunch and coffees and we didn’t have any dull moments, we were both constantly talking the whole time. Initially, I thought it was disinterest somehow but we arranged a second time to see each other, and we were texting a lot after the date.
He has old pictures from like 2019 on social media, and doesn’t seem to have a lot going on for him except work. He seems more so the nerdy type of guy. We discussed our age gap, and he mentioned it doesn’t bother him that much he said I have a good head on my shoulders and that he wants to see where things go.
The one thing I’ll throw in is he hasn’t messaged me back for a little over a day. I know he’s busy at work because he works 11 hour shifts, but again he’s super awkward. I thought our texting was a bit formal, but he said our texting was a good start. His dad even mentioned he’s super shy and has trouble talking to girls. I don’t get it one bit because he’s super established, actually attractive, has money, like to me I really see him as a good partner on paper of course, but after meeting him in person I’m super interested in him, but I’m scared he’s doubting himself or something. I just want to convey that I really do like him but he’s just so darn awkward. I don’t know if it’s a lost cause, I also don’t want to play it off as I’m the one putting in a bunch of effort either, it’s just an odd situation.. any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.