u/Cultural_Struggle_52

I left my role as a bookkeeper and wanting to progress into accounts production. My old company promised to train me and move me to that level once I passed my second final professional exam, but I never saw it happen. I regret that I didn’t sit down and have another meeting before making the decision to leave, as the people there were nice. I had to push for more responsibilities to be provided and how I could help my seniors.

I moved to another role, but there was no structure or onboarding, and it all fell apart as I ended up getting fired, the owner was going through his own issues and the girls on the team were unwilling to train.
Now my previous company doesn’t even want me back. Instead, they are encouraging me to grow through temporary positions, such as management accounts roles.

What can I do? I am unemployed again and having regrets.

Will I ever change for better? I hate my personality.

I’m 25, and honestly, I really struggle with my personality.

For example, in my first job, the owner told me they were going to move me to another department but that it wouldn’t affect my probation. The company structure was changing, but I took it personally and resigned quickly without really thinking it through. I thought they maybe don’t want me and let me get out of here. They were going to move my role too. And said if I stay within the current role then probation would increase to 6 months.

In my second job, my manager used to shout at me a lot for no clear reason. It really affected me emotionally and made me cry several times, so I ended up leaving that job too.

My third job was actually great. The environment was stable, and the people were kind. I stayed there for about a year and a half, but then I secretly applied for another opportunity and went to an interview. I left my stable job for that new role, even though my family advised me not to. Unfortunately, due to a lack of training, I was let go from that position. I was fired from this position when I voiced for tasks if training and I’d be shown the processes. I was fired in the same week.

Now I’ve been unemployed for two months.

Looking back, I feel like I often act impulsively and make bad decisions. I don’t know if it’s an age factor.

I’m also very emotional as well and can get upset like teary.

1. Is this normal and will i change? And how can I change for the better and ensure success at the the work place?

2. do I happen to end up in bad places or is there something wrong with me …

I left my job in March and resigned formally, I resigned because I was offered a new promoted role and thought I was going to learn and develop as my current firm was promised me progression into accounts preparation but I was still doing the same tasks of bookkeeping.

Now, the new role did not work out for whatever reasons.

I spoke to the old firm and although I was close to the director, she told me to job hop and look for other opportunities and said trust me you don't want to return things have changed. Normally, firms want people that have experience with the processes and systems to avoid having to train someone new.

Why is she pushing me away? :/ Is she genuine about my progression.

There was a vacancy on the job board for the old company, but she didn't mention of it. We all make mistakes and I probably made a decision in haste and left, but I would love to return.

Hi All

I got a joint mortgage with my spouse.

He earns 85k and I was on 22k.

My income was about £1600 per month.

My spouse is the main contributor to the mortgage and I don’t contribute anything.

The mortgage at that time had been accepted but the house process took a little long so we are finally near completion but now I changed jobs and first month I earnt £560 and second month I earnt £500

So my 3 month payslip looks like

1500 - old employment

1200 - old and new employment combined

500 - new employment

The solicitor yesterday email me and my spouse for payslips. Does this look dodgy? Can it mess up the entire process? I’m extremely scared and responsible as I should have not changed jobs but I didn’t know :(

Our mortgage is with Santander and for my spouse the requirement was to complete probation and then send payslips.

Now what do I do.

I sent the solicitor payslips and bank statements for the last 3 months. I didn’t explain anything as everyone told me only reply questions if you are asked but since I am not the main contributor they said it shouldn’t make a difference. If anything provide a contract letter saying the job is permanent a there is no probation.

can the entire process go bust because of me?

Hi All

I got a joint mortgage with my spouse.

He earns 85k and I was on 22k.

My income was about £1600 per month.

My spouse is the main contributor to the mortgage and I don’t contribute anything.

The mortgage at that time had been accepted but the house process took a little long so we are finally near completion but now I changed jobs and first month I earnt £560 and second month I earnt £500

So my 3 month payslip looks like

1600

560

500

The solicitor yesterday email me and my spouse for payslips. Does this look dodgy? Can it mess up the entire process? I’m extremely scared and responsible as I should have not changed jobs but I didn’t know :(

Our mortgage is with Santander and for my spouse the requirement was to complete probation and then send payslips.

Now what do I do.

I sent the solicitor payslips and bank statements for the last 3 months. I didn’t explain anything as everyone told me only reply questions if you are asked but since I am not the main contributor they said it shouldn’t make a difference. If anything provide a contract letter saying the job is permanent a there is no probation.

can the entire process go bust because of me?

my job hunt is extremely depressing.

All the recruiters give me hope and then dissapear, one came back and say that the firm said you are too far, i am only 20 minutes away. That was so weird.

the second recruiter said oh the firm said youre amazing but thinks after passing your final exam you would want a senior position, like no i want the experience and grow and develop.

i am stuck between having minimal exposure to accounts production and doing bookkeeping, i am looking for accounts assistant / junior accountant role.. :( all the companies are looking for seniors and semi seniors - how will i reach this stage if no one helps or trains or i cant work with somoene doing this

i just rejected an industry offer because i want to be in practice as my last role i was in a practice. i feel so sad like no one wants me.

What do you guys think of my skincare routine? I’m pretty new to skincare so I’d really appreciate any advice or suggestions.

Morning

- CeraVe Hydrating Cleanser

- Niacinamide (The Inkey List)

- Caffeine Eye Cream (The Inkey List)

- CeraVe moisturiser (blue bottle)

- Garnier SPF 30

Night

- Double cleanse (CeraVe cleanser + Hydrating Cleanser)

- Niacinamide

- Vitamin C serum

- Caffeine eye cream

I’ve also just ordered a retinal from Medik8 but haven’t started using it yet.

Anything I should change or improve?