My MIL, her new husband, and their 8 year old son are coming to visit us. We haven’t seen them in 3 years at our wedding, and before that my husband hadn’t seen his mom in 10 years at her wedding to her new husband. He had never met his half brother before until 3 years ago and hasn’t seen him since.
When they told us (yes, told us, didn’t ask) that they were coming, they said they’d stay for a week and would be staying at our house. my husband shut that down IMMEDIATELY. We really do not know them, MIL never ever texts or calls unless to taunt us about how her sports team is better than the one we like lol. All this to say, they are now staying only 3 nights and in a hotel.
After 2 years of IVF, I am now pregnant, and we plan to tell them when they visit. My husband is concerned that his mom will be more excited about becoming a grandma and the title of it all and will then suddenly decide to be more present in our day to day lives, which we do not want.
Idk what I’m asking really, but we’re just very nervous about their upcoming visit and that they think they’ll be a big part of our child’s life, which they won’t. They absolutely will be saying that their 8 year old son is going to be an uncle, but he really will have little to no part of our child’s life. I guess help on boundaries in this tricky situation.