I was participating in this argument in Instagram's comment section, but my particular account was blocked from commenting by the page before I could post this.(the comment below)
Context:
So it was a motivational quote-thing that mentioned babies on airplane("iT wON't iRritATE yOU aNYMorE if yOu cAN'T haVe bABieS yadiyada🤮") and someone commented they hate babies and of course everyone handled her opinion like the biggest abomination ever, the typical "yOU werE a BAby tOO etc"(i cant stand that one its SO lazy. I always throw the "you're gonna be a corpse too, might as well start getting used to the stench now?" response).
Also the "therapy needed" comments actually made my blood pressure rise i can't stand this level of partonizing. Since when do you need "therapy" for personal preferences???
I'm going to post the comment here for some food for thought and also venting. The stuff i describe in the comment is something i've wondered about a lot these days.
The comment:
"Those who are annoyed by babies, especially their high pitch noise, see babies for whom they are – irritating(literally intended by nature), but they don't have SHIT TONS of oxytocin in their brains to soothe the stress and motivate them to care for it, like moms and the kin do.(or those who have the production of this hormone linked to babies in their brain). Search "changes in brain during pregnancy" and you'll see how much part hormones(oxytocin–love/bonding/calm hormone) play in the whole caretaking process, and how it can actually muffle out stress responses and make the whole experience feel less bad. Crying is a natural irritant, it triggers cortisol(stress hormone) in moms so she would do something. Now imagine suffering under misophonia, depression and/or migraine, almost COMPLETELY lacking oxytocin effects whatsoever and being exposed to the shrieking noise at the place you can't escape from. It can feel like physical pain(reported by people with misophonia), because you don't have a trace of oxytocin around the creature–your brain might be wired to produce twice the cortisol instead–so you experience the noise way differently. Imagine being exposed to the raw, intense source of cortisol without any remedy. Never downplay someone else's experience when you haven't been in their shoes, people."