Nothing violent has happened but he projects his anger on to me a lot. There are times I’m scared to say anything because I know his reaction won’t be warranted. He acts like he’s in high school… he’s 25, and I’m 22. It’s hard to give specifics examples because I have memory problems when it comes to conflict. He started therapy so that’s… something. He won’t clean, cook, pay the bills, save money, text his family back (so I am responsible for knowing everything about him and if I don’t they get mad), or do literally ANY responsibility without being told so or without fighting about it. I’m so exhausted. He also refuses to wake up and go to bed at the same time (I have chronic illness so it’s really important). So when I wake up at the agreed time he’s grumpy that I try to get him up and we fight. It’s been years like this. When he’s kind and caring it’s great but it’s rarer and rarer these days. I’m financially reliant right now due to my illnesses but I’m working on it.
Examples of what he’s done: spent thousands of dollars without telling me then lying about it, adds countless random girls on social media, let an abusive roommate move in and let him abuse me, let everyone involved think I was the abuser, compulsively lies about random things to my parents (who are being removed from my life), lies in general too I guess. We moved once and he threw half of my belongings away because he didn’t want to deal with packing it or something. Am I going crazy??
Edit: it’s so bad I’m having PNES seizures