After years of no contact I finally sent him a letter. This is his reply.
Hello XXXXX,
happy Easter to you and the kids. I’m hopin’ you guys are all doing well. That being said, I received your letter a couple of days ago and sorta went into a little bit of a tailspin and couldn’t bear to open it. It seemed like it might be kind of severe and I just can’t take it. I don’t want to participate in that game anymore. Everyone has a particular temperament, as well as a good and a bad side. It’s very difficult for me to be portrayed as a monster who has only bad aspects and nothing to offer. I think more important is being positive, and working towards overcoming issues and moving forward. We are both adults and I pray that we can somehow get together and both be accountable as well as responsible for our mistakes and recognized for the good things that we both offer. If that letter is anything positive, let me know, I would love to read that. Otherwise just hold off on what I perceive as hateful mudslinging. It hurts too much. Believe me, you’ve won. This last third of my life has been very painful and full of loss. Regardless, I love you more than I can say and would appreciate any opportunity to give, and redeem myself in your eyes. Whether you like it or not, we are family and that is what is most important to me. Take it easy honey, I love you!