Troubles in the bedroom
So for reference me (afab nb 26) and my partner (amab nb 30) live together and have for a few months now. Slowly our sex lives have just dwindled, mind you we are also open/poly and do entertain people with rules involved ofc. But right now the problem has become that my partner just primarily jacks off and doesn't want to do anything together hardly anymore, and sometimes ignores my advances all together. Sometimes they turn me down only to jack off within like a few hours of that. Which like I get too a certain extent but like they HATE the thought of me with other amab people for hookups but really only wanna do anything MAYBE once a week. One of the rules in place right now is that I can't just go hookup with dick, it has to be someone I form a connection with and have a deep conversation with my partner about first to ensure they are comfortable with that. But I'm free to do what I want with afab people. But like most of the time I just want nsa dick, I dont want new connections I just wanna fuck sometimes. And like they gave and have the same rule about them getting with afab people but only because I made it clear that any rules they set have to be fair. The rule only came about after we agreed we both need to like do stuff with other people more and I tried to get with a someone they thought had a penis and they got REALLY upset. I have always had an insanely high sex drive and quite frankly masturbating just doesnt fucking do it for me most of the time and I wanna fuck. And honestly like part of the frustration is i just constantly have to hear them talk about their attraction to other people, then wanting to do gay stuff, or people at work hitting on them. I am starting to feel like they dont find me attractive anymore honestly. Truly i never thought I'd be jealous of someone's hand before. I know that this probably just comes off as me being an asshole but I'm just so frustrated here.