u/Crulagin

My fiancé and I have been dating for 9 months we recently moved into my place with her 2 kids. This is my first real relationship she’s had several. All ended poorly with lots of baggage. I’m ok with this all and I’m very patient with her and do my best to be understanding. She gets very mad over some small things which maybe it’s my fault idk. I’m trying. I feel. But when she gets mad she yells and screams and just has this rage that breaks my heart. She’s throws things and calls me names tells me to “man up”. Insults my family and things like that. I can’t say much or it makes it worse. But I never retaliate only try to calm her. Recently a family member said something at work that could make my fiancé look bad. I told her what she said. (This was a mistake) the girl was young but still an adult who said it. A close family friend. But my fiancé insisted on texting her and basically saying she didn’t appreciate it. I told her to leave it alone no reason for drama. She got mad at me for not defending her. I told her there was no reason to it was stupid middle school drama. She did not like that. She pushed for me to say something to my mom for not stopping her from saying it also. I did regretfully. Mom gets mad. I tell my fiancé this morning it was dumb to keep at it again. We fought and it wasn’t well. She blames me for it all. Then says “oh it’s always my fault” and in this situation I said it was for pushing it. She yells and screams and I try to talk with her about it. But she won’t have it and I don’t think I can take anymore of this yelling and insults. She says she regrets being here and gives me like deadlines for us to work out or she’s leaving. Right now she doesn’t want me in our room, calls me by my first name, and says she’s done. I go back for more and try to reason. She mentions she’s not trying to separate me from my family I retorted it feels like you are. That was the last straw for her. I say one little thing towards her and it’s “shit hit the fan” but she insults me over and over when mad says the worse things and I take it. I love her I do. But it’s hard.