u/CrowShin

TL;DR - My GF feel unfair that i get to do something she cannot do (i talked abt taking a pic from a digi cam when I've talked to her abt ha only taking photos in her digi cam but i wont nd no longer will take a pic with my friends). I've been controlling for maybe more than half a year but I'm genuinely trying. what can i do and how can i make it up to her?

My girlfriend and i have gotten into a fight yesterday because she saw a msg on my account (not cheating or anything related) with my friend talking about taking a pic in my digi cam. Note: we have the same digi cam and I've told her before that it'll be us who only take a pic in those digi cam. I was controlling, i was jealous, i was insecure and i admit and acknowledged that.

Right now i am trying to be better and change those actions, behaviors nd attitude but then she saw that msg talking abt the picture in my digi cam, i didn't do it, and i wont be doing it i wont be taking a picture with ny friends nd I've acknowledged everything that she said about how she says. I've said sorry and assure her. I understand how frustrating it is for her to be controlled by my reactions.

She feel like she can barely do anything because of my reaction. This experience is from last year and maybe up until january- early February but I'm genuinely changing myself to be a better person, and partner. Now she's mad because of how unfair i am with her. It's like i get to do things she cannot do. I acknowledged my insecurity I'm working through it but i also acknowledged her past hurts and her feelings rn.

How can I make it up to her? Do you guys think that I can make it up to her? And if yes, how so? What are the things that i can do to be a better partner to her, and stop being unfair?

Ps. We've almost broken up for almost 3 times because of my behavior that I'm genuinely trying to get hell nd change but most of the times our talk is calm and we end up not breaking up but calling each other.

I am someone who got jealous alot nd tends to control but rn I'm trying not to. I'm genuinely trying to change those behaviors for my gf. I'm in a relationship and last yr I've mentioned to her that I'm uncomfortable when she's too friendly or when she looks too happy with others nd she adjusted on that even though she's not fully okay with it. I understand that's my fault no excuses because that's my insecurity talking. Recently she opened my account nd saw how I talk to ny friends nd felt unfairness. She said i was doing something that i told her not to which is right. Now she's really mad and this in all honesty is my fault and i take full accountability on that. What can i do to make it up to her? And how can i avoid unfairness in relationship?

for the past few months Im making it up to my gf because i was controlling because of jealousy which is not valid. I'm trying a lot, I'm anxious but I'm trying to respect her space and time and try being calm about us when responding too. Recently, our relationship feels calm and okay-ish, we play again, she says things about our future plans, and etc. We're happy, at least for me it looks like that. We only had maybe 3 misunderstanding small ones (imo only but not invalidating how she felt). But last night she made me remember the time she have given to me to make her feel loved again without making her feel like she doesn't have freedom, and says she kind of feel annoyed with me most of the times recently. What should i do? Is this a build up resentment showing up? Am i over analyzing things? Is she happy yet annoyed sometimes?

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We've been together for 3 years but recently we've had disagreement. Now I'm back at courting her, not as a gf but as a suitor. I'm trying to create a space where she doesn't feel suffocated or controlled because she's tired from dealing with some things in our rs. How can i court her? We barely see each other too. Different university and city. How can i create a space where she feels safe to come, and feel loved but not too much to feel suffocating? How do i show her that I'm consistently changing? How do i change consistently? And how can i manage my jealousy with her friends? Thank you in advance!

I've been in a rs with my gf for 3 years. Recently we've had a misunderstanding and i dont want to pressure her to open up to me and be close again. Last night i annoyed her before she goes to sleep and she got upset a lot. Today she goes out and before that we got into misunderstanding and she got upset so bad again. She barely talks to me but sends random video and pictures updates, and randomly sent a cute plushie. She said toxic too and hinted of wanting a stop in our relationship. What can i do to help our situation right now? What can i do to prevent further pressure in her part?