So, a funny story from a while ago. I 28F met this guy 30M through one of the AM apps. He was settled in another country, so we usually talked over calls only. A few weeks into it, he suggested coming here to meet up finally. The timing also matched coz he wanted to come here for the ganpati festival after many years. The conversations went really well up to the point he actually arrived here. We met only a couple of times, and each time after multiple reschedules and zero effort from his end to even choose a place (for context, he worked in hospitality, and said "idk how to find places on zomato, you just go ahead and choose anything you like) 🤐 Even if I planned and evening, he would come up and cancel it last minute or ask me te reschedule due to some or the other excuse.
Anyways, although I was working and followed the 9 to 5 schedule, he was mostly free. Despite that, he bailed out on planned dates, stopped calling altogether after a week or so. Now one might think he was meeting other prospects or such. But no. He was out all night with his friends (literally every other day) and slept throughout the day. Later, he didn't make time to even plan a single dinner by himself, or even just meet to chat. By this point, we'd not decided that we're moving forward, we were just seeing each other to see if we were compatible. I even suggested that we can go pandal hopping together during the weekend, and he said that he has plans with family. The same weekend later, I see his stories on social media going ganesh pandal hopping with his friends which he refused with me. When I asked him about it, he said it was a last minute plan and brushed it off.
So anyways, this went on for a while and even the ganpati festival was done atp. One night, just before bed, I wanted to chat a bit and asked him so, as we hadn't talked for a while coz he would mostly be out, but was home that night. However, I kept getting very late replies and the conversation didn't flow at all. I asked him whether he was busy, and he said yeah, I'm watching bigg Boss, I'll ttyl. I slept after that.
I think that was kinda like the last straw that broke the camel's back. His utter refusal to take any effort in meeting up or even having conversations with me, especially when he said he'll be here to prioritise and take this relationship further really showed me what he actually prioritised. I ended it politely 2 days later citing incompatibility.