My F/16 boyfriend M/17 has been extremely controlling, what can I do?
For context, my boyfriend and I have been together since we were both 14, so we have been together for a while. After our second anniversary together, we ended up breaking up for a month due to long distance and him becoming extremely distant, but now we are back together, and since then, he has been extremely controlling.
Constantly now, he monitors what I post on TikTok stories. I have to follow a set of rules about my clothing (no cleavage, shoulders not showing, etc.) or even the sound I post too.
When we argue, which is pretty often now, he will bring up the past from two years ago, which is completely irrelevant to what we would be talking about and is starting to become emotionally draining.
Two days ago, I went out with some friends to the races, and yes I did have a few drinks, I was only tipsy, and I was talking to him the whole night, which ruined everybody else’s night because I was constantly on my phone. He would ask me what I am wearing, how much I have had, who I am talking to, who is at the races, etc.
There was a time when I was answering something he asked, I turned off my phone for a few minutes, and he replied with “someone’s definitely in your pants right now.” He always thinks the worst and thinks I don’t have any self-respect.
All that night, people were telling me to try and get out of relationships like that, and I’m still young and still so much to live for. Saying all of this he still has his great moments and can still be such a great boyfriend but is this toxic or normal behaviour to expect in a relationship?