Would I be The Asshole If I don't have another baby?
Hi loves. This is not my first time posting, but I got a new account after deleting my last one since I became a bit obsessed with the app.
So my beautiful baby Girl was born in January of 2026 and she is absolutely perfect. I am so in love with her. She is my whole world and my heart is full.
For context she was planned, prayed for and definitely wanted. Before I was even Pregnant with her I said I wanted 3 kids, but that has changed drastically since.
While I was Pregnant my Husband cheated on me through sexting other women on this app. I caught him and he told me that he doesn't see it as cheating and he sees it th same as Porn since he will "never meet her in person". Anyway. I decided to stay with him for the baby and because he promised to go to couples therapy and individual therapy to work on us. No one (and I mean no one) knows that the cheating happened.
Now since my baby has been born my husband, his mother, my mother and other extended family and friends have been telling me: "No don't throw any baby clothes out you'll need it for the next baby".the thing is... I am not getting pregnant with that man ever again!
I am perfectly content with only having one baby and loving her and putting all of my attention into her. I hated being pregnant and having her was painful as all hell. Why can't other people just eccept that I don't want more kids and never will. Aside from the fact that they don't know my husband cheated why are they so pushy?
So would I be The Asshole If I don't have another baby?
Edit: okay so I just wanted to edit since I am getting a lot of exit strategies and hate for not immediately divorcing my husband and deciding to stay with him after he cheated. Like Charlotte says ALOT you don't always know people's situations and it's easy to sit behind a screen and yell "divorce" when you're not the one going through something.
Thank you, kind strangers, for caring about the wellbeing of me and my baby. I will not be getting a divorce that is my decision. There is no resentment between me and my husband. If he does decide to cheat on me again I will be airing out his dirty laundry for the world to see starting with his mother who is a saint and who will take my side. He knows this. We have very good communication. He treats me well and is trying his best to make up for what he did. We are in couples counceling and individual therapy.
I still don't want anymore of his kids and I wasn't sure if that makes me an Asshole, since he is putting in the work to show me he is remorseful. I do feel bad because I can see he is hoping I change my mind, but he needs consequences for his actions and since I decided to stay with him the consequences are no more kids since he can't be trusted to not cheat on me again while I am pregnant.
Thank you to the few who stayed on topic and reassured me that I am not the Asshole for not wanting more kids.