u/Critical-Let-9838

I had a thought about an ISTJ character I'm writing, how would they handle certain undeniable truth that in a year if they do not uproot their entire life and forget who they are entirely and that if any traces of their past remains, they are destined for a horrible inescapable fate? If you were told to completely forget about your past identity, routines, beliefs and ideals and transform yourself into someone completely unrecognisable by the end.

How would an ISTJ handle news like that no matter how many times you verify you know this outcome to be true? What do you think you can forget easily and what do you think is hard? What would stress you out the most? Would that even be possible? I'm curious to see how this would work for Si doms.

I'm not sure if it's a common experience but I always try to offer help or do some work if they look like they need it but as soon as they think you won't be able to contribute (even though I know I can) I give up immediately. If they're not particularly close to me in my head I'm like cool I get to relax and you're underestimating me so I don't feel guilty at all.

Is that problematic? Should I be protesting and trying to help in any way I can?

It's so funny because ENTJ's can be intense with most people because that is the default for you. You hate performative people, anything fake can be spotted immediately and you cut straight through the BS and that can be devastating for anyone who is not used to it.

But then there's a weird contrast.

When with people you feel comfortable around I've experienced that most I've met are very soft, loyal and have a strict moral code that you won't compromise on. I think what most people miss is that your intensity isn’t really about being harsh, it’s about not wanting to waste time on things that aren’t real so when a connection does feel real, you don't armour up as much. You're still direct but in a more candid and patient way.

I'm an INTP and have an older ENTJ sister that I really get along well with and she likes that she doesn't have to filter her words or manage her emotions around me because I'm not the type to judge so she drops the whole act and can just be... present. She likes to share exactly what she's feeling even if it’s messy or unpolished and I love talking about it for hours trying to understand what exactly she meant by it, giving my honest opinion and then helping her refine it into something that makes sense without any feelings getting hurt in the process. Then like a responsible older sibling she starts giving me financial advice. Its fucking awesome.

A friend of mine who is an ENTP is always trying to get me to play new games with him and he pretty much knows that I'm the only friend who is just as compulsive and autistic enough to try anything so I always give in. We play for a while, have fun learning the ropes, failing repeatedly until we overcome some challenge and just as when we feel like we're getting the hang of it he starts losing interest and drops the game. I don't expect him to play the same thing forever but at least try to have more hours on a game you introduced to your friend 😂