u/Creepy-Football-2353

Holaa, bueno la verdad es que llevo algunos años con este pensamiento y me lo quería sacar de la cabeza, tanto como desahogo como para tener opiniones externas.

Bueno, lo que pasa es que soy la unica hija mujer en una familia de varones, también soy la menor y debo admitir que soy un poco mimada por mi papá, no a la mala ni con preferencias, solo que diria que mis papás son más sobreprotectores conmigo que con mis hermanos.

Mi duda viene con respecto a mi mamá, yo siempre he sido más cercana a ella ya que paso más tiempo con ella que con mi papá porque el es el que trabaja, yo la quiero mucho pero siempre noté algo raro en la forma en la que me trata a mi comparado a mis hermanos, mis hermanos le pueden gritar cuando se pelean, pueden insultarla y ella no se enoja tanto, pero si yo hago la más minima cosa ella siempre descarga mi ira en contra mio, por ejemplo, ultimamente están teniendo peleas con mi hermano del medio por tomar mucho y porque pone a su chica primero antes que a él mismo o a su propia familia, mi hermano a llegado a insultar horrible a mi mamá y a gritarle, pero ella en lugar de decirle cosas como me dice a mi, se lo guarda y a veces la veo llorando, obviamente me siento mal por ella y no se lo merece, pero una vez que yo dejé que mi chico se quedara hasta las 9 pm en feriado, ella me regañó pq no debería dejar que se quede tan tarde (no me justifico, debería controlar más eso) y que nisiquiera le ofrecí nada de comida y pues yo le dije que recién habiamos terminado de ver una serie y que si le habia ofrecido y habiamos comido y solo le pedí que por favor no asuma cosas sin saber pero ella se enojó, me empezó a gritar que esperaba que mi chico me dejara y que ella iba a estar feliz de eso y después cuando vio que no le estaba prestando atención (pq siempre tiene sus ataques de la nada) me atacó. Esto es solo un ejemplo para que se entienda a lo que me refiero.

En resumen, siento que se guarda todo con mis hermanos y lo descarga contra mi cuando yo cometo cualquier error.

La verdad ya no se que hacer, a veces me estresa demasiado pero también siento que exagero y que las madres latinoamericanas son así, ustedes que opinan?

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u/Creepy-Football-2353 — 12 days ago

(First of all, sorry for the bad English, I'm using a translator because I feel like it will reach more people that way) Okay, this might be such a non issue, but since last year I've been in the same class as this girl, let's call her Ari. At first, she seemed like a really nice person and someone easy to get along with. She's intelligent, pretty, and all that, but she didn't act like a living stereotype.

Well, basically, they changed everyone in my grade and mixed us up according to our interests, which completely separated me from my group of friends. Since I'm very introverted, I didn't know what to do because the only people I had were two other friends and a few classmates I talked to. It was clear this girl liked my friends from the start because, even though she had her own friends, she started hanging out more with mine, probably because hers were excluding her. At first, everything was pretty normal. The four of us talked amongst ourselves, and even though it was clear that she and I weren't going to get that close, I didn't feel out of place. But everything started to change when that slight distance suddenly turned into excluding me. She would push my friends away, leaving me alone a lot of the time, and that made me feel bad. After a few months, I started liking a guy who was kind of a friend of hers, and we started hanging out. Things calmed down a bit then, until everything started happening again. So I decided to get closer to the classmates I was only talking to, and that's when I started noticing a lot of things. At first, she was dating this guy from another class (who I personally think is a terrible person), and because of that, she lost several friends. She often spoke badly about a certain person we'll call Emi. As I mentioned at the beginning, when we were separated into different classes, my best friend ended up in the same class as Emi, and they became friends, so I started spending time with her too. And I can say that she's an excellent person, nothing like what Ari said about her to make us hate her too. She also had problems with other girls, mainly my boyfriend's friends, and well, that started to seem strange to me.

Well, all of that happened last year, but this year I feel like everything intensified. She wouldn't even speak to me anymore, and since she started hanging out more with the friends who excluded her last year, she's changed a lot and become more self-centered. She talks badly about anyone she wants, and my friend told me she's also thinking of distancing herself from her because she started saying strange things to her—that it's not that she dislikes me and my other friend, but that our personalities irritate her, but that my friend is different, that my friend and I act strangely, and that I should be careful. She talks to my boyfriend when I'm right next to her, ignoring me like I'm a ghost, etc. I'm going to list everything she's done that makes me think she's a bad person:

1-Exclude me from my own group of friends

2-When we did physical tests and I got the same score as her, she denied it and, along with her friends, insisted that I couldn't do it.

3-There was one week when I was feeling really bad, so much so that I couldn't hold it in and cried during recess. She saw that and just assumed that my boyfriend and I had broken up without asking anything, and she said a bunch of weird things to my boyfriend while I was there, referring to me very disrespectfully.

And well, there's a lot more to it too. I know it's not that serious and it's more like a typical teen drama, but I don't know what do you guys think.

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u/Creepy-Football-2353 — 14 days ago